My fiancé and I have been together for a year and a half. Living together for most of that time. She has 2 wonderful children in which I have grown to love and basically be the father to. Our love for each other is solid no doubt about it. There were a lot of stresses in our life between her school, my work , the kids etc. but never for a moment did I ever think about throwing in the towel.

What should I do? She did in fact leave and I am closing the apartment where we lived and she is going back to her moms and me on my own. I asked her to give us a second chance and a new beginning to give us the chance to do things over and perhaps the right way because we did rush into this very quickly. She went away to visit her sister for almost a month so I know some time apart would be healthy for us but I want my family back... what should I do?

Actually time apart actually will be more of a determining factor of her staying away, but why the break up. Was there any reason for it?

No matter what she decided not to go through with things. What you need to do is accept the decision that was made. If she already knows how you feel and that you want to continue. It is left in her hands. Do not force anything on her or it will push her further away.

It is hard situation but she made her choice. You already told her how you feel so just give it some time and see what happens.

Joe

Hey man thanks for the respone!

Why the break up you ask... well unfortunately her mother has played a big factor in this whole picture and not for the good. Her mother has portrayed a lot of jealousy and envy twords me for the simple fact that I am a loving, responible, hard working family man and it seemed like she felt like I was taking her daughter away?? On the contrary I always incuded her in everything.

My fiancés previous relationship was very abusive. He did things that no human being should do to another... no joke! I have endured a lot in my life and it hasn't been easy but I was even taken back by what was done to her. Maybe she hasn't made peace with that chapter in her life?

And it just seems a little strange that here comes a man to take care of, love, protect, and guide there daughter and grandchildren and never once a sign of gratitude.

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People get into abusive relationships for a reason. Usually because they were raised to believe that they are not good enough, and that they need to be punished.
Your fiancé needs to get over this problem before you too can be together. Problem is that it is very unlikely that she can do it on her own. She needs a friend to point her in right direction so she realizes that she needs help. Professional counseling would be best.
You should stop perusing your love aspirations for a wile, and try to be that friend. Find information on this subject, and good counseling place and give her this information. If she does not listen to you, find someone that she trusts (not her mom) and ask them to help.

I was in the same situation with now my wife. My wife's mother and sister acted as they loved me and they love seeing their daughter/sister happy. I treat her like a queen but when things got series they turned evil, very controlling and they were doing everything to try to destroy us. It is up to this person to stand up to her mother. To not let her family destroy something that is good.

Hope everything works out and thank you for clarifying your information.

Joe