Concerned husband and father
My wife of 26 years has decided to have an affair. For months she has been acting strange. Finally after lie after lie I have received copies of emails of the love letters back and forth. In talking to an attorney I was informed that nothing in the copied email letters proved she was having sex with this man. I was instructed to attempt to get her to admitt to having sex with him on tape. That has been accomplished. My wife is close to 50 and is a supervisor at a large company. The alarm to me is her fling is with a man in his early thirties in which she has hired and he reports to her.
In my honest attempt to forgive and forget and sign up for therapy for the both of us, my wife is going through mood swings and denial. She repeatedly is telling me one thing and doing another.
My question is along with not trusting her she is planning behind my back at a daily basis. What protection do I have? Can I be pro active on this affair in a legal way? How can I stop her from hurting herself her family, her kids, her career and last myself? I know you cannot force someone to love you, but even now with her parents upset at her, our two adult son's extremely hurt and upset, and me fighting a high extreme level of stress how can I protect myself from her hidden attempts or at least she thinks they are hidden at destroying my life?
Thank you
Sincerely