Originally Posted by mandersmo
I met my ex at work in 2004. he had started exactly a week before me. I thought he was cute, but someone had told me he had been engaged for like a month or so. I thought to myself 'oh darn' i had no motive to go and bust them up. Him and i talked at work and eventually through emails and eventually on the phone. 9 months passed and we had become really good friends. he called me one day to tell me he had broken up with his girlfriend because she lied to him and to this day i believe she cheated on him. Him and i got together a little less than a month later. We seemed to be goin good til august 2004 his mom told me he was hanging out with his ex for the past 2 weeks. then in october i found out they had slept together again and she got pregnant but miscarried. trust issues FLARED but after time i realized i was partially at fault for moving too fast. when he looked my parents in the eye and told them he really wanted to be with me, i felt more at ease. over the next couple years we bickered a lot and got in more fights than we wanted. i felt better though because his ex gf joined the army, met some guy got married and now have a baby. we'd fight for 5 hours straight and then we'd finally realize how stupid we're being and then just make up. at times in the heat of the moment if he would say really horrible things to hurt my feelings, i would slap him. i wasnt raised to believe in physical violence, i idont know what came over me, and i to this day feel so bad. he dumped me on this past mothers day (2007) and i found out about 4 nights ago that since the break up he's spent some time with his ex. who's home (dont know for how long) with her baby. she got on the phone and was telling me to not be mad, her and him are strictly friends blah blah blah. i really wanted to hang up on her and scream, but i figured why would she want to talk to me if me and him are broken up? She explained to me that when they were together they were always able to talk. and thats what theyre doing now. she said he'd been explaining to her the way things were going and she said part of it was the physical stuff that he got sick of. i feel so bad. her and i made small talk, she told me she could tell he still loved me and that he cried and that she told him i deserved a chance to fix things because everyone deserves a chance to learn and fix their mistakes. she also told me a couple times that if she wanted him back she wouldnt be talking to me. I dont trust her, because its weird, but im willing to listen to her if she's going to take time out of her life to tell me that there's nothing going on between them because she could have him at any moment since we are after all, broken up "for now". i think he's really confused. he doesnt really have any real close friends that he tells things to. he makes it a point to come see me at work, i can tell he's still interested, i just dont know how to handle things because every one i talk to tells me we were a really cute couple. Together almost 3 years i wish he wouldnt give up. I know he needs his space because we both smothered each other and jealousy was one of our biggest issues. Do you think he'll come back??
The thing is, i started talking to my other ex too, and now that my present ex knows of it, i dont know if he's jealous or not, he does ask questions like if i drank when i went out or how the other night was or if i had fun. one night he called and i didnt pick up because i was at a party and my phone was broken, so he called the next morning at 5 am on his way to work. and yesterday i whispered something dirty in his ear just playin around and he laughed, and i told him i missed so many things about him, and i went to kiss him nd he turned his cheek and his head was slightly bent so i sucked on his earlobe and it gave him goosebumps. then he looked around and saw noone around so he planted one on me. then out on our breaks we were sitting on the sidewalk and i kissed him and laid my head on his shoulder and he kissed my forehead and then kissed me. it was like a 5 second makeout session almost. he asked me if it was good and i smiled. but later on at night i got in a fight with my mom and called him becuase i didnt know who else to talk to, and he was telling me to go home and straighten things out with her, and i was crying and everything and i broke down to him about us and that i deserved another chance and he said he didnt know if he could give it to me. whats holding him back???:confused:
