This is gling to be lengthy, but I want all the details in this so you an accurate picture of what is going on. My husband and I met at work one day and we have seen each other every day since (almost). We have been married for 3 years. I was blessed with a man loves passionately, soulfully, spirituallly. He is everything I could have ever hoped for in a best friend and lover. The love we share between us is the type of love that fairy tales are written about. When I get his touch, or attention, love devotion, there is nothing that compares. If someone told me I would be in this problem right now, years ago, I would have called them crazy. We have quite a past, my husband and I . We have some issues.We are both addicted to meth. We have used it for the past 13-14 years, before we met.Now as wonderful as I tried to describe him earlier, when he has been using for 2-3 day and nights, he turnes into the biggest jerk\schitzo ever. He hears voices. He "hears people in the house " and "sees me trying to communicate" with them. I become his mortal enemy and does not understand how Ican be so loving and wonderful sober and so evil when we use. Now I have tolerated his antics for years. They are painful, but I realize it is the drug doing this to him. As far as my behavior on meth, I have been told by my friends and his friends also, that it is not me. It is defineatly him. Mentally, on meth, the only side effect it has given me (which I loathe and would do anything to stop)is an obsessive compulsive disorder call trillotichomania. I pull my hair out. When I don't use, I don't pull my hair. You think it would be easy to stop. Here's is my dilemma, the reason I am writing. My soulmate, the one who promised me forever is cheating on me. I told him my suspicions and he confirmed them. He says he loves me more than ever, and what we have could never be duplicated. And he says he loves this other woman also. My foundation is crumbling at my feet. Everything I thought I had, is falling by the way side. I am confused, extremely hurt, lonely, and honestly quite lost without him. We have been living separately for a while because my family has a hard time tolerating him.
I didn't see this coming at all. I cannot get him out of my head. Images of him and this other woman flood my senses constantly. All day I re-play our past, good time and bad times and it makes me miss him more. I have physical pains by my heart because of this.
What do I do. I cannot just wait and hope it burns out. He is my reason for living

I know this may sound hard, but if he is with someone else... thank her for taking his problem off your hands. It will be much easier for you to sober up if you don't have another addict to drag you down and cause you to relapse. Get help because this drug is not only killing you but it is killing everyone around you that loves you. I am in love with an addict too. Thankfully I am not an addict myself but it would make it a lot harder if I was.
Please get help, maybe then you will be an inspiration for him to get help too. Meth is a hard drug to get off, seek professional help to detox from this drug!

Your only hope for life is to let go off the meth. What your husband does is not the issue and you have no control over his addiction. Yours can be helped if you want, by going to a detox center near you, and getting clean and staying clean for the long term. This you must do for yourself and no one else. Seek professional help now. Much Luck.

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Originally Posted by banjanan

This is gling to be lengthy, but I want all the details in this so you an accurate picture of what is going on. My husband and I met at work one day and we have seen each other every day since (almost). We have been married for 3 years. I was blessed with a man loves passionately, soulfully, spirituallly. He is everything I could have ever hoped for in a best friend and lover. The love we share between us is the type of love that fairy tales are written about. When I get his touch, or attention, love devotion, there is nothing that compares. If someone told me I would be in this problem right now, years ago, I would have called them crazy. We have quite a past, my husband and I . We have some issues.We are both addicted to meth. We have used it for the past 13-14 years, before we met.Now as wonderful as I tried to describe him earlier, when he has been using for 2-3 day and nights, he turnes into the biggest jerk\schitzo ever. He hears voices. He "hears people in the house " and "sees me trying to communicate" with them. I become his mortal enemy and does not understand how Ican be so loving and wonderful sober and so evil when we use. Now I have tolerated his antics for years. They are painful, but I realize it is the drug doing this to him. As far as my behavior on meth, I have been told by my friends and his friends also, that it is not me. It is defineatly him. Mentally, on meth, the only side effect it has given me (which i loathe and would do anything to stop)is an obsessive compulsive disorder call trillotichomania. I pull my hair out. When I don't use, I don't pull my hair. You think it would be easy to stop. Here's is my dilemma, the reason I am writing. My soulmate, the one who promised me forever is cheating on me. I told him my suspicions and he confirmed them. He says he loves me more than ever, and what we have could never be duplicated. And he says he loves this other woman also. My foundation is crumbling at my feet. Everything I thought I had, is falling by the way side. I am confused, extremely hurt, lonely, and honestly quite lost without him. We have been living separately for a while because my family has a hard time tolerating him.
I didn't see this coming at all. I cannot get him out of my head. Images of him and this other woman flood my senses constantly. All day i re-play our past, good time and bad times and it makes me miss him more. I have physical pains by my heart because of this.
What do I do. I cannot just wait and hope it burns out. He is my reason for living

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Getting off the meth is easy, I have done it off and on over the years. But my concern is I have never felt so devastated and alone, hurt and betrayed like this before. Complete hopelessness. One day I had thelove of a lifetime and the next he won't return my calls

If he trips as hard as you say, then you have to let him go for now, and find a way to go on with a healthy way of living. If you think the way it was is messed up, how do you think it will be if he comes back doping, and you see things with a clear head?? It will be much worse. When you've been clean long enough you will agree. Give yourself a chance to see things as they are, and get yourself clean, and stay that way so you can appreciate how truly sick you were, and he still is.