My girlfriend broke up with me in February and then I gave her some time to herself to think about things and then it happened, she told me she didn't feel the same way anymore about me and just wanted to be friends right now, but after three month of casual talking she is telling me things like how she misses having someone by her side and she's telling me that she's very horny and needs to have sexual intercourse, what is she trying to tell me, is that a sign of things to come or is she just testing me to see if I will push myself onto her,what should I do or say because I don't want to do the wrong thing, should I make a move or just take my time with her or just wait to see if she keeps bringing it up, and what do I say back to her if she does bring it up, Laidies you might know the right answer to this, please let me know.

She's leading you on. Don't let her have her cake and eat it, let her live in her own confusion. If you carry on with this your heading for a big down fall. I know its tempting and its hard but it will make you a stronger person to just say NO! Block her out from your life and concentrate on YOU and what YOU want from life. Its easily done, MSN Block/delete, phone delete + bar, myspace delete. Facebook delete, email delete. She's gone then!

Do yourself a favour for your own sake.

She is making a booty call as far as I can tell and not anything else. Don't respond to her when she does that. Part of her wants to know you are at her beck and call. Don't do that. Don't be that accessible and that easily manipulated. There used to be a term for a woman who acts like that but I am sure I cannot print it, it has something to do with teasing. You get the idea.

Let her go her own way and find your own way, in a different direction. For your own sanity and well being. Men (and women) are vulnerable like that after a break up. Be strong and look out for your ownself here. Take care.

The others user said it all!

what's wrong with having your cake and eating it, too? (ive always hated that expression anyway lol)

Yes, she is indeed just wanting to have you around whenever she gets lonely and needs someone. Notice she didn't say she misses having YOU by her side... she said she misses having SOMEONE by her side... if no one else is there then you would be the next choice. So the decision is on you... do you want to keep her as a friend (with benefits) or "delete" her from your life (god, we are such geeks these days lol)?

She wants you at her conviences, start to act like your busy, don't pick up her phone calls, some times, nor call her... make her miss you even more, let her learn a lesson, if you don't have that strong feelings, give her a booty call and "hit it, and quit it" :)

Disappear from her life and find your own.

I don't see that there's anything wrong being friends with "benefits," while she sorts things out for herself. Just be sure that you are in charge of the power to decide where this might go.

I doubt that getting some kind of disease is a benefit! This girl does not really care who is near her side. I personally think you should turn away just like most of everyone here is telling you... you don't need the headache! I am sure you are a great guy and have no problem finding a great girl that really appreciates and wants to be with you always. Never be doormat to anyone!

Take the advise above and move on with your life. Contact with your ex will not allow you to move on. If you carry on the way you are you will be in the same position now as you will be in several months time.

Gah, don't do it. You will only hurt yourself more in the end if you let her take control of you like that.

I would stop talking to her, but that is just me. : /

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Originally Posted by elamoore

My girlfriend broke up with me in febuary and then I gave her some time to herself to think about things and then it happened, she told me she didn't feel the same way anymore about me and just wanted to be friends right now, but after three month of casual talking she is telling me things like how she misses having someone by her side and she's telling me that she's very horny and needs to have sexual intercourse, what is she trying to tell me, is that a sign of things to come or is she just testing me to see if I will push myself onto her,what should I do or say because I don't want to do the wrong thing, should I make a move or just take my time with her or just wait to see if she keeps bringing it up, and what do I say back to her if she does bring it up, Laidies you might know the right answer to this, please let me know.

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