Originally Posted by Rory
Ok, where do I start?
I 've been with this girl for 1 year now. She is at University in Glasgow (scotland) and is 25, while im a Van driver working in London (England) and im 26. Before going out (dating) with with me she was going out a guy who was an aquantance(think its spelt right) of me and my friends, he was a student at the same University, and while there, he had developed a cocain problem, whitch she delved into also. They split up becouse of his drug problem and a month or so later she got with me, and that was as mush as I knew.
Six month into the relationship I found out she was lying to me, about her where abouts, what you have to remember is that we where 500 miles away at the time and we only spoke on phone, so I was lucky to have found out. She only lied about going to lectures, thats not to bad, but when I caught her out(over a radio show she counld'nt have listerned too if in a lecture) she kept denialing it, eventually she gave in and told the truth. Ok, simple enouth so far.
In my heart I felt something else was wrong, and had done for a while, all the times her phone was off in the past and her weird way of answering questions ran through my mind, and to cut a long story short, I asked her if she had lied about anything else, after threatening to end it she told me a whole load of stuff she had lied about, I was shocked and gutted, she basically had been lying through her back teeth, and had been speaking to her Ex on M.S.N. and keeping lots of information from me, for no real reason, she knew I WAS cool with her seeing her Ex and other men who are friends, so why lie? was she cheating?
It doesnt end there, I forgave her for lying and we stayed together, but recently something very concerning has happened. I found out that these male "friends" in scotland had been past lovers, one of whitch she cheated on her Ex with, After he had cheated on her? confusing I know, And there was whole lotta stuff she "forgot" to mention about these guys and what she had been doing before going out with me, she had told me long before that she didnt sleep with any one else between her Ex and me, well nothing could be farther from the truth. use your imagination on that one.
I also found out she had been taking Extacy pills in excess and not telling me.
Now theres this bi-sexual guy she is always with while in scotland, he's the one who is plying her with drugs, And she told me her self that he regulary has 3 somes with men and women, he's a swinger, I dont have a problem with that, BUT I do have a problem with her taking Extacy with him, sleeping round his house( with others) and lying to me about it. she says he's just gay and that she is save with him, but I see a wolf in sheeps clothing.
She is back in London for the summer, and so wont see him for a while.
Any advice would be nice, Im sure she has cheated but I can't proove it!
if you have any more questions about this just ask,as i've left out a lot of details.
How could I proove it? or dis Proove it?
please help!
