Ask Me Help Desk - I am hurt and confused!

Hey everyone. Well I have been with my boyfriend for about 5months now but I knew him for about a year and a half. Everything is going wonderful except for the fact that he hates kissing. The first couple of weeks that we were dating he always madeout with me and was very effictionate, but later on throughout the relationship he just started giving me pecks and we never made out ever since (its been 2-3 months since we made out) When I first met him, He told me that he was with a girl for 9 months and never kissed her because he hates kissing, he thinks that kissing is disgusting, and he said that he has been hating the thought of kissing since he was kid (he is in his mid 20's now) and I just don't understand this! I see it so much differently, if you love someone you would WANT to kiss them, and there is nothing wrong with me, I am a very attractive young lady, he is very attracted to me, so the fact that he doesn't want to kiss me hurts me completely, I don't know what to think. I am not a bad kisser at all. Do you think that I am just making a big deal out of it? What do you think could be the reason? Our relationship is healthy, I am ALWAYS around his family almost everyday, and we are happy, but the whole kissing thing really hurts me, he hasn't gave me a peck in 2 weeks, which really hurts me, he says that making out should be before two people make love... all we did was oral, nothing more, I just don't understand why he hates kissing so much, what do you think?

well, sorry but this guy is a weirdo. He doesn't want physical contact but who can live without it?? You can't, I can see that.
So if there is no other problem then put up with it until you can't :D
But tell him straight that kisses are expression of love, without it, you feel so unconfortable, and at 1st, I think you should give him just a light kiss like you kiss a kid on the check and very light on lips, he'll get used to it then slowly turn it to passionate kisses :D

Goodluck, (hix don't know if this help since I've never heard someone like your boyfriend before)

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Originally Posted by lmnotok

well, sorry but this guy is a weirdo. He doesnt want physical contact but who can live without it??? You can't, i can see that.
So if there is no other problem then put up with it until you can't :D
But tell him straight that kisses are expression of love, without it, you feel so unconfortable, and at 1st, i think you should give him just a light kiss like you kiss a kid on the check and very light on lips, he'll get used to it then slowly turn it to passionate kisses :D

Goodluck, (hix dont know if this help since i've never heard someone like your bf before)

Thanks Imnotok, yea you are right, well I guess that I will try to give him a peck, he sometimes gives me pecks. He gives me pecks if he misses me because hasent seen me in a while, sometimes I just think that its weird!

I want a guy's opinion on this or a girl who has gone through this before... what do you think?

Man, a guy who doesn't like to make face? I don't know what he's personally thinking. Maybe he's thinking, "where has this mouth been?" Not to sound like I am making fun of the situation, but maybe he's a germaphobe? Making out is only a pretense for making love? Wow, this guy's rational is completely off base in my opinion.
Maybe something traumatic happened in his past or something.

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Originally Posted by incognito

Man, a guy who doesn't like to make face?? I don't know what he's personally thinking. Maybe he's thinking, "where has this mouth been?" Not to sound like I am making fun of the situation, but maybe he's a germaphobe? Making out is only a pretense for making love? Wow, this guy's rational is completely off base in my opinion.
Maybe something traumatic happened in his past or something.

Thanks Incognito, I think you are right because he is a germaphobe, he hates germs... But about the "where has this mouth been" he knows I never cheated on him and I'm pretty sure he trusts me... but it really just doesn't make sense, I never met a guy that didn't like to kiss.

Since everyone seems to believe that his "rationale is completely off" because he doesn't like making out, you all will probably think the same about what I have to say. But maybe your boyfriend is really tempted to go further when you guys make out, and maybe he doesn't want to be tempted that way. Do you know what his thoughts are on premarital sex? Before you completely rule my opinion out, I think you need to have this conversation with him. Ask him why he doesn't like kissing, and tell him, that as his girlfriend, you have a right to know things that involve you as well. If it doesn't have to do with temptation, and he says that he honestly just doesn't like kissing, then you have a tough decision to make. You may love him very much, but if kissing is important to you and he is against it, it will always be a splinter in your relationship that will only get worse, and I'd say it's time to let this one go and move on. I wish you the best of luck...