Hi. My boyf of 9 months hasn't wanted sex with me from the start, he says that he doesn't feel very much physically and cannot come through sex, but I know he masturbates and ejaculates then. He said that he fantasises about being an adult baby and being humiliated. I am not averse to playing along with this but he hasn't wanted to have sex with me since the start, and we now haven't done it at all for over 3 months. He has also been disparaging about my body and I have radically changed myself to try to make him fancy me. Since we haven't had sex, he has been far happier in the relationship and asked me not to finish it when I tried to (thinking it was what he wanted) a month ago. I don't think he wants just a friendship but I am going crazy as I love sex and now feel crushed and rejected about my body. Anyone got any ideas what is going on here? Thanks.

Dump him. Today, do not wait until tomorrow. The main reason has nothing to do with his adult baby fetish (that is a whole different problem). The main reason is that he was/is making disparaging remarks about your body and he requires you to change. He requires this, not you. So why change for him? Of you wnt to lose wright for your own health, that is your business. But for him to require that - forget him. If he cannot like you or love you just as you are, for who you are, then he is just not worth any more of your time. Where does it stop, once he starts wanting you to makeover yourself?

If you have to change everything about yourself in order for someone to be with you or want you in a sexual way then you don't need that person you need to be with someone that can want you for who you are and the way you look now because if this turns out to be the person you spend your life with it needs to be someone who's attracted to you more than physically cause your bodys going to do a lot of changing as you get older and if the only reason there with you is for the physical aspect then your really going to get hurt later down the road. My opinion is find someone who wants you for you and leave him if he hasn't wanted it from the start and you've made all these changes to yourself and he still doesn't want you he never is but that's my opinion.

It is his fetish to act like a baby. If it is not yours find another.

Theres two people in a relationship, he may be happier since the sex stopped but you are not, if he can't compremise then its time to find somebody who makes you happy.
And dont change who you are for anybody.be yourself, and if that isnt good enough then he doesnt deserve you.

Sounds like he has a fetish-if you hate it tell him. If he hates your feelings-move on!

Conversely, if you enjoy(which I can see well that you don't) maybe you don't mind, but would like some other sexual aspect rather than Mommy and Baby.?

You could buy yourself the most expensive vibrator 9the best one) use it on yourself and tell baby that its mommy's time for fun-if he likes humiliation then maybe it may help you both?

Sorry but I'm no expert on this fetish (or just about any others either!)

Best of luck

Sounds like some sort of chemical imbalance..

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Originally Posted by bellydancer

Hi. my boyf of 9 months hasn't wanted sex with me from the start, he says that he doesn't feel very much physically and cannot come thru sex, but I know he masturbates and ejaculates then. he said that he fantasises about being an adult baby and being humiliated. i am not averse to playing along with this but he hasn't wanted to have sex with me since the start, and we now haven't done it at all for over 3 months. he has also been disparaging about my body and i have radically changed myself to try to make him fancy me. since we haven't had sex, he has been far happier in the relationship and asked me not to finish it when i tried to (thinking it was what he wanted) a month ago. i don't think he wants just a friendship but i am going crazy as i love sex and now feel crushed and rejected about my body. anyone got any ideas what is going on here? Thanks.

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Maybe he is not ready to have s-e-x with you. And you should give him some time and don't preasure him... he'll come around. TRy not to be a sex addict.

LEAVE NOW!! A man that wants to be humiliated as an adult baby, has issues, sexually and mental.

I feel that I really must reply to this I hope somebody will read this

First things first I am a adult baby I have ben this way ever since I can remember I am now
About 50 years old male but from the inside emotionally I am still a baby I wear diapers all the time and I am a
Little baby girl, all my life I could never understand why I was this way ,I tried suicide and other ways of self destruction
But my dress maker who makes my little girl clothes for me says that it is usually caused by emotional trauma and also in my
Case since I am very sincitave person and because of my abuse as a child this is why I am the way that I am so now I imbrase
Who I am and I love and accept myself and do not hid the truth from any body any more all my friends and family and all my
Neibors accept me I can go outside with my dolls and stuffed animals and play in my sandbox and swing on my swing and
I have never ben so contend and accepted I have never had a real girlfriend for the same reason as your boyfriend sexually I am a baby and what I really want is a
Mother image just some one I could love and who would love me right now I have 2 lady friends I won't say their names but
They both accept me one would really like to take care of me since I really am not able to take care of myself to well and
Other one who I really love but I can't satisfy her as a girlfriend boyfriend relation I love her so much that I would like to
Mary her and spend the rest of my life with her but I know that she needs much more than just love she still stays my best friend
As far as you thinking that you are not sexy to your boyfriend let me tell you how I look at woman I don't look at a woman
As some one to have sex with I look at women as really caring and loving and motherly and for that reason I am really turned on
And I also masturbate because I have never ben with a woman in the other way I do not understand the first thing to do I am
Still a virgin

I am a really caring and loving person beond any thing that most people cold even emagin and my research has shown me that
Most adult baby's are how ever there are adult baby's who are just recreational baby's and their emotional state is very
Self distractive and violent so an I can not speak for all adult baby's just adult sissy baby's like myself which I surmise
As being even the minority even in the adult baby world so I am basically a outcast no mater where I turn


As far as the rest of these people saying to leave him this is the worst thing that you could do to him it would
Devistate him even more and make him feal like nobody would ever love or accept him,this is also why I am the way I am
Is because of being abandoned and not having any body to love me

He must really love you allot to open up to you and even tell you any thing about himself this right her tells me that he
Really loves you

You say that you don't mind playing the mommy please do this eventually you will get the results you want just by
Lovingly showing him what you want him to do as a baby and teaching him how to be sexually as a adult,this is what I want my
Girl friend to do,she accepts me for what I am but she doesn't want to be a mommy and I have never had a mommy so for me I
Will probably never get the opportunity to ever grow in that area

If you can't do this for yourself please do it for him even if you never get what you want he will have grown and understand
More what to do as a adult baby

If not you can just accept him and love him for a friend that would also be OK,but please do not abandon him

Love you and God bless you for trying
Baby Cindy

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As far as the rest of these people saying to leave him this is the worst thing that you could do to him it would
Devistate him even more and make him feal like nobody would ever love or accept him,this is also why I am the way I am
Is because of being abandoned and not having any body to love me

Startover22 says that it is not about him right now, he needs to go get help. She needs to leave because he won't be able to make her happy. Those are just the facts. I wish the original poster happiness. No guilt sweety, you got to go!

[QUOTE=startover22]

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as far as the rest of these people saying to leave him this is the worst thing that you could do to him it would
devistate him even more and make him feal like nobody would ever love or accept him,this is also why i am the way i am
is because of being abandoned and not having any body to love me

Startover22 says that it is not about him right now, he needs to go get help. She needs to leave because he won't be able to make her happy. Those are just the facts. I wish the origional poster happiness. No guilt sweety, you gotta go!

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I agree that he will probably never be able to give her what she wants and make her happy as a boy friend and I really don't like that he is making her change to fit his desires and I strongly do recommend her to get another boy friend and return to being her self this is coming from my experianc of 50 years of trying to change myself

And I also agree that it is wrong to be dreaming of having sex with your mommy I guess I have to explain a little clearer what adult baby's are about it is about being scared about life and scared about just about everything and bing taken care of by somebody and being diapered is the apsolut controle to the point of the understanding the person taking care of you will never let anything happen to you and will always love you it is not about sex this is why most adult baby's don't even understand about sex

I really respect all mommys

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Originally Posted by bellydancer

Hi. my boyf of 9 months hasn't wanted sex with me from the start, he says that he doesn't feel very much physically and cannot come thru sex, but I know he masturbates and ejaculates then. he said that he fantasises about being an adult baby and being humiliated. i am not averse to playing along with this but he hasn't wanted to have sex with me since the start, and we now haven't done it at all for over 3 months. he has also been disparaging about my body and i have radically changed myself to try to make him fancy me. since we haven't had sex, he has been far happier in the relationship and asked me not to finish it when i tried to (thinking it was what he wanted) a month ago. i don't think he wants just a friendship but i am going crazy as i love sex and now feel crushed and rejected about my body. anyone got any ideas what is going on here? Thanks.

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If you don't drop this fool, and quick, I'm gone call your mama! Where the hell do you keep your self-worth? Cause, you sho ain't got it with you! Don't do "any" dumb-a thing that a man can come up with. Respect yourself. You deserve some things out of life - like someone who respects you. Oh, and sex!