Hi, I am rather new to this site, and honestly not entirely sure on how helpful, or even how to post properly, so I guess I'll wing it.

My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 7 months, and the topic of sex has only come up once, about two months ago. What I would like to know, is, should I bring up the topic again? She is going on a two week vacationreal soon, and I thought about bringing "the topic" up again, but I really do not want to come off as appearing to be pushy, or inpatient.

In case anyone insists on asking, I'll just say now, that even though we been going out ofr seven months, we have not had sex yet, that is why I was thinking about just bring up the topic, not necessarily asking her to have sex.

Well it might be good to start with how old are you both?

Did she say she doesn't want to have sex before?

We're both 21, and she didn't say she DIDN'T want to have sex before. At the time, she simply said she just wasn't ready yet to have sex, and I totally agreed. But, it came up because we were both very uncomfortable talking about sex, so we thought we would talk about it to hopefully get a little more comfortable with talking about it with one another.

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Originally Posted by terminator05

we're both 21, and she didn't say she DIDN'T want to have sex before. At the time, she simply said she just wasn't ready yet to have sex, and I totally agreed. But, it came up because we were both very uncomfortable talking about sex, so we thought we would talk about it to hopefully get a little more comfortable with talking about it with one another.

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Yeah sure, won't hurt to bring it up.
As long as she knows you're okay with holding out, she's obviously taking it slow for a reason.
You could talk about all kinds of things that lead up to sex.
Sexual abstinence can be exciting in a way...
I don't think I could last though... lol

Don't push anything to happen. When it is the right time it will happen, I'm sure she doesn't need to be "reminded about sex". Plan a romantic night before she leaves (don't come into this expecting ANYTHING).. and if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't then that means it isn't the right time for her.

You say a romantic evening, what, you mean like take her to a restaurant or somthin?

Or cook for her, have the candles, flowers, and all that other mushy stuff. Girls love it when guys cook for them... my husband wins me over with that every time! ;)

Oh, dress up really nice too (don't forget to tell her to dress up, we hate it when we're underdressed).

Yeah, think I'll stick with the rest. A monkey can cook better than I can. She's Italian, so I was thinking maybe take her to like Olive Garden or some kind of Italian rest, is that a good or bad idea?

Hey, if there's no chance of you cooking... by all means take her somewhere. I'm sure she will appreciate the fact the house isn't burned down. Show sincerity on your date, don't act cheesy like you're just trying to get her to have sex with you. A lot of women can see right through that!

Don't use those lines, "You're soooo beautiful, you're an angel, I love you".
Garrrr me says, *shivers*

Coming on to strong is a big turn off...
But then again I don't like romance so maybe she might like the sappy strong stuff.
You know her better then us.

If she is ready for sex you don't have to bring up the subject. I don't know how far you two have gone sexually so I am assuming on my own that you have done some things that would be called sexual like fondled her breast and maybe you have fingered her. If so then the next time you are together just do the same things and try to carry it a bit further. If she is ready she may go along with it but if she is not she will let you know. If it goes to the point that you finger he to orgasm and all of a sudden that is all that she wants to go then don't push it. You will just have to suffer the pain this time and hope for better next time.

Just leave her alone. My boyfriend always asks for it all day and the more he asks the less I want to do it. It makes me even more out of the mood. Its just sex let it go

Are either or both of you virgins?