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  • May 27, 2007, 11:04 AM
    undermyumbrella
    My ex boyfriend best friend is hitting on me
    Plsss help meeee! I broke of with my ex like almost 2 weeks, and its been really 2 hard weeks, and then yesterday I when hotubing with friends at my exs best friends house and I didn't think he would be there, cause he was supposed to leave sumwhere, but when I came it was so akward cause he was there :O and it was akward, my ex was going to some party so he didn't come hotubing so we all got in the hotub and started drinking and playing truth or dare... and like his friend was getting all close to me, and we started making out and stuff and then we talked about us, and if we would ever would work out but he doesn't know cause he says its akward that he's friends with my ex and stuff and we decided we would just keep it like that and then if the times rite we would move on to being more than friends but its ovious he likes mee, and then it was 12:20 am and my girlfriends left and I was with 4 other guys (my ex wasn't there) and then the guys went outside and I was sitting inside waiting for the cab with this guy who's best friends with my ex, and we got really close he talked to me about evrything and opened up... and then BANGGG it just happened we started hooking up well he made the move, and at first I backed out but then I went along, and then I had to pull away cause my cab was there, and then I came outside and the other gys were there and my ex and they all knew what happened and URGHHHHH I'm so confused, but my ex is over me and I'm getting over him he lost interest me romantacally that's y we had to end it. But like the memories are there and I misss himmmm... but when I was with him we were together for 2 ina half months we were true to each other and we had a relli close relationship .PLSSS HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP! I feeel like some whore haha that hooks up with guys... but I'm not like I make out I dun go further unless I was ina relationship and I have my morals,a and I dun find anything wrong with making out if the guys alrite anf you know him. Im justt so confused??
  • May 27, 2007, 03:33 PM
    chuff
    That is very hard to read so I skimmed it the best I could.

    He's not a good friend, which means he would be an even worse boyfriend so stay away from him.
  • May 27, 2007, 03:57 PM
    kinks
    Humm my opinion on this is nothing for now, but I must say that I am a true beliver in giving everyone a chance. I think the cest thing to do would be to talk with your ex and ask him what he thinks. Why should you guys deny yourself a chance because of a past love?

    But still, you said yourself that your heart isn't healed from the last guy so before you make any move I would suggest to get over your ex. Once that is done, like I said talk with everyone. But make sure all the important people know what's going on, your ex needs to know and do does this guy you like and made out with.

    I would also ask the guy you made out with if he talked with your ex before making a move, because if he didn't he is not one of the best of men as chuff said, but at the same time perhaps he has liked you for ages and now see's his chance at being with you.

    Hope if helped
    XxXxX
    kinks
  • May 27, 2007, 05:08 PM
    undermyumbrella
    Well there's 2 guys one of them who is best friends with my ex who I made out with but it happened accidentally (and it was his house and hottub)
    And another that we both kind of like each other, and yee he asked my ex if it was fine to make out with me and my ex said okay, but we agreed on just being friends for now. Urghh its just so hard to move on for me. I miss my ex
  • May 27, 2007, 05:21 PM
    kinks
    Ahh hun, you know you are better without him if he no-longer loves you.
  • May 27, 2007, 08:01 PM
    undermyumbrella
    I know its hard cause I think I still have feelings for him :(
  • May 27, 2007, 10:25 PM
    diya
    U'r not able to realize that it's over, so just holding onto it, though in the heart of hearts,u know that it can't be recreated. Romance once over, is hard to get back in the original shape... very rare honey...
  • May 28, 2007, 05:28 PM
    talaniman
    You may have feelings, and its so hard to move on, if you two keep seeing each other socially, and you will always have that hope of getting back together, but surely you must see that his feelings for you as a partner are gone, since he doesn't care if his buddies try and hit on you. You need a whole new circle of friends, and activities, so you can remove any links from the past, and move on to your own future. That will stop this feeling of you being passed around like a whore. Find your own happiness and give yourself a chance to heal, before you jump into someone else's arms.
  • May 28, 2007, 07:40 PM
    undermyumbrella
    Thanks... ye I think I'm just going to take time off and not see them for a while :D and I'm leaving at the end of June anyway to europe so that way I dun have to see him in the summer, so in a way that's a good thing :) but then again even if he does have a bit of feeling for me, but he broke it off, he would still say yes to a guy that asked him if he could hook up with me. But IM NOTT looking back and moving on (hopefully) and hopefully I will be able to bee good friends with him in the future (not that were not friends) but its still akward since the break up is still fresh. At the moment I'm enjoying being single, cause when iw as in a relationship I was constantly with my ex and now I can do w.e I want...

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