Ask Me Help Desk - Is he lying or not?

Recently, my boyfriend and I have been having problems... It all started because of his enemies who claim that he's only pretending to be rich, that he owes a lot of money to a lot of people and that he has hasn't returned the things he borrowed.

We had a discussion about this issue in the past. He insisted that he is innocent and even said that what his enemies were saying are lies. He was able to prove it to me so, I believed in him from then on.

Until just a few weeks ago, one of his enemies came up to me and told me that my boyfriend and his ex were back again. As his girlfriend, of course I would get hurt.

Because of the problems lately, I noticed how he's changing. He isn't as sweet as he was before and I sometimes feel that he doesn't care for me anymore...

He stood me up 3 times during our dates. First was because he had to face someone who wanted a fight then the other time, he told me that he has to pick up his cousin from the air port and just today, he told me that he is sick.

I just have this feeling that he doesn't care for me anymore... Do you think I should believe in my instincts or in him?

Believe in your instincts.

It seems to me he is trying to cover everything up and when he gets found out he creates this my enemies crap is after me. This is just a cop out and a way for him to pass the buck to somebody else so he does not need to take the blame for anything.

My thoughts just based on what you wrote. There is always two sides of the story, but the only side I can base it on is what you have written and I trust your telling us everything.

Joe

You know first normal regular people don't have a lot of enemies, that is something to consider to start with, people have those who may not like them, but enemies are not something normal people have.

Next either he is rich or not, often people lie about being rich, And he either owes them money or not, Sounds like if these people say he does, I would say most likely somethingis going on.

I would say far to many red flags going on with this guy

You better trust your instincts, as not to many honest people have enemies trying to do them in.

I agree with talaniman. Trust your instincts. It seems like his feelings towards you have changed so maybe its time for you to change.

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Originally Posted by nyanko

Recently, my boyfriend and I have been having problems... It all started because of his enemies who claim that he's only pretending to be rich, that he owes a lot of money to a lot of people and that he has hasn't returned the things he borrowed.

We had a discussion about this issue in the past. He insisted that he is innocent and even said that what his enemies were saying are lies. He was able to prove it to me so, I believed in him from then on.

Until just a few weeks ago, one of his enemies came up to me and told me that my boyfriend and his ex were back again. As his girlfriend, of course I would get hurt.

Because of the problems lately, I noticed how he's changing. He isn't as sweet as he was before and I sometimes feel that he doesn't care for me anymore...

He stood me up 3 times during our dates. First was because he had to face someone who wanted a fight then the other time, he told me that he has to pick up his cousin from the air port and just today, he told me that he is sick.

I just have this feeling that he doesn't care for me anymore... Do you think I should believe in my instincts or in him?

I'm sorry to say that I believe he is cheating. I know that isn't something you'd like to hear but looking at the situation and how he has been acting I don't see any other solutions.