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  • May 25, 2007, 09:47 AM
    krazylady
    I love him but breaking up seems real?
    OK me and my boyfriend live together and I love him to death but lately we've been fighting a lot. He's never hurt me physically but when he's mad he says all these mean things and now he 's threatening to kick me out just because I don't feel comfortable with him walking around the house with just a towel on while his brothers girlfriend is around. She's a year younger then both of us and thinks she's the sexiest thing that has walked this planet. Everything blew up after that and he got mad because I asked him not to. What am I to do? I love him but right now he's saying he don't love me anymore. But he's said that before and we've made up. Im just sick of fighting and I want him back when he;s less stressfull.

    Krazylady
  • May 26, 2007, 02:50 AM
    nyanko
    I think all you need is a heart to heart talk. It may be difficult because guys are less sensitive than girls but it's the safest way to start. Tell him your concerns and how you feel about it. He will understand you if and only if he truly loves you and respects your thoughts.

    All I can say is that, if the both of you really love each other, you shouldn't let your relationship be ruined just because of an argument like that... Another thing is that you have to trust your boyfriend no matter what. I think he got offended because he thinks that you don't trust him.

    Another way is to be frank with the girlfriend of your boyfriend's bro. Ask her if she's interested in your guy. If she does, then shame on her.

    Well, I think that's about it. I hope I have helped you in a way and I wish you all the luck! : )
  • May 26, 2007, 03:22 AM
    JoeCanada76
    My opinion, is if he can not respect you enough to actually cover himself up when other people are around and he is freaking out about you asking him not to. THat sounds so crazy. There must be other things that are going on right now as well. The above answer has it correct. Try a heart to heart. Communication is very important because if you do not have it, eventually it will be over anyway.

    So tell him your concerns. Tell him it is important that you both respect each other and that, that is how you feel.

    How long have you been living together. What kinds of things does he say to you when you do fight.

    Joe
  • May 28, 2007, 11:33 PM
    Mom of 2
    Yes start with a heart to heart. Keep in mind that this guy most likely wants to get a reaction out of you. Making threats to kick you out and also saying that he does not love you anymore sounds to me like emotional abuse. Communication is key, but if he is an emotional abuser, then you can try and communicate until you are blue in the face. Nothing will change until the abuser accepts the fact that he has a problem and gets help for it. Be prepared to leave if he refuses to listen. I know it will hurt initially, but you deserve better than this kind of behavior.
  • May 30, 2007, 12:57 AM
    decejohnson
    I have been with my ex boyfriend for all of my high school life. We have did everything together. I mean the teachers of the school would give information to one of us to give to the other instead of mailing it to the parents. We both hang out in the same group of people. My friends are his friends and his friends are my friends. We are each other best friends and we both can rely on each other for any and everything. He was the only thing that made my life happy and without him my life is gone. 2 days ago he told me that he didn't want a girlfriend right now and I have been crying my eyes out and have been drunk the whole time. Do you think there's hope for us to get back together?
  • May 30, 2007, 02:25 AM
    Mom of 2
    This entry has nothing to do with the original question being asked. You need to start your own question and not ride piggy back this the first individual's question.

    I have a couple of thoughts on your question and I will be more than happy to post them if you start your own question.

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