I was with a man for almost 8 month.. Things got rough around the 5th month.. Then I find out The night we Broke up, that he cheated on me when he was out of town. He says he still loves me but doesn't want to get back together. He wants to be His own person. I have been trying to let him do this but its hard, I'm madly in love with him. He was my world and he shattered it.. I have lost 10 Lbs since last Friday.. I haven't been able to eat. Im on anti-depressants.. They are helping a lot.. But What do I do know? Will it get better? Should I forgive him? Will things ever go back to normal..
Thank you

Move on. Honestly if this relationship couldn't last 8 months without him cheating on you, it isn't worth the emotional energy. Move on, find someone else who will treat you with the respect you deserve, and enjoy your life. No man is worth taking anto depressants for, or starving yourself for, it was a short relationship so use it as a lesson in life. He has told you he doesn't want to be with you, not the actions of someone who loves you! He is trying to let you down gently, take the hint and don't beg him, he will probably get off on that! Don't give him the pleasure. Don't forgive him, he cheated on you. Things will get back to normal, things will get better, but not with a loser like that in your life. Good luck, and you are not alone, most of us have been in this situation, or one similar. You will get through it.

Lot of times we fail to realize that life is constantly moving and so are people. People we meet in this lifetime have and will NEVER remain with us forever... Ok get this fact slide down your system. Once you feed this into your mind, it'll all become so much easier. Each one of us move on to accomplish different roles and responsibilities... all you're left with is yourself. Cherish the people you meet for that particular point in time, learn from them and the situations and get on with other things... Every relationship makes you stronger and everything happens for a reason which you do not know now but soon will... Trust yourself, your beliefs and DO NOT depend on any person, thing(anti depressants) or whatever to make you happy.

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Will it get better? Should I forgive him? Will things ever go back to normal..

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Yes time will make things better and you will get back to normal, but forgiving this guy for cheating? You can forgive, but not forget, and if he did it once, he will do it again. Honestly I think you cared more than he did , so good riddance to old trash.

Everyone said the truth. Someone who says he loves you but not enough to be with you is so not worth any of your time.