i'm a mother of three and before i had kids i had a baing body after that it went to shiv and my husband stopped having sex with me but i got a boob job and tummy tuck and nothing has change and i look better then i did b4 so what's up with that do guys really care what your body looks like?

First of all, any woman who has a child can expect her body to change in different ways, and all men expect this. I hope that you didn't get the bood job etc for your husband because something so drastic should only be done because you want it, and want it for yourself. Getting all this will generally not fix your sex life.

Have a talk to you husband ,as I find sitting down and talking is the only way to get a real honest answer. Discuss your problems and talk together about ways your can both improve to make your relationship even better. I believe guys, to a certain extent, care what your body looks like, but more importantly I think they care about the person within it.

I hope my advise has been of some help to you, all the best.

Annabelle

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Originally Posted by Annabelle2007

First of all, any woman who has a child can expect her body to change in different ways, and all men expect this. I hope that you didnt get the bood job ect for your husband because something so drastic should only be done because you want it, and want it for yourself. Getting all this will generally not fix your sex life.

Have a talk to you husband ,as i find sitting down and talking is the only way to get a real honest answer. Discuss your problems and talk together about ways your can both improve to make your relationship even better. I believe guys, to a certain extent, care what your body loohappy with the way i lookeduz i was unks like, but more importantly i think they care about the person within it.

I hope my advise has been of some help to you, all the best.

Annabelle

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Thank you but there is no sitting down with him and talking he thinks it's a wast of time he says no point in talking to me because I repeat myself witch I don't. And no I got the work done because I was unhappy with the way I looked

Visual stimulation is very pleasant for me although not a sole requirement to stimulate the adequate blood flow to win at pocket pool. I am one of the sicker portion of the world. My attraction to women is simply honest , relatively sarcastic personality, with a career noneffected by dishwater hands and loves permanent residence in a zoo like atmostphere, possessing dedication and commitment to odor free cat boxes, with some trace of bed sharing sleeping conditions that could with out warning providing an occasional flagellance with a very poor memory. That's not much to ask is it?
Seriously It sores me to to dwell on how many men have it so good and yet step outside of the manly man ego infected attitude to enjoy an experience just how special his life is until it fades off into unreturnable locations. Breaker 1-9 breaker 1-9 you got your ears on? Key to communication is willingness. Best wishes, I hope for some type of reality check of sorts to get the ball rolling.

Well key thing here is you did not let yourself go like some women do. I appreciate a woman who cares enough to keep herself in the best shape she can. Not every woman can be a super model, nor should they expect to be. A well grounded woman who does her best to look her best means more than s supermodel that thinks she is gods gift to man.

Incidentally, I know a mother of 4 that has a body that in a bikini will make your eyes pop, and she's close to 40. Just leave the kids out of the bedroom figuratively... thats a real turn off for many guys. Don't discuss, bills, kids, work or anything like that when you are intimate.

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thank you but there is no sitting down with him and talking he thinks its a wast of time he says no point in talking to me because i repeat my self witch i dont. and no I got the work done because i was unhappy with the way i looked

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That must be incredibly hurtful! Have you suggested counseling? I'm so happy for you that you got what YOU wanted done to your body... and feel better about your appearance... However I think staying with someone for a prolonged time who makes you feel unattractive would make the most perfect of women suffer.

For your husband to tell you that talking to you is essentially a waste of time... is horrible... and no one deserves to be treated that way. If you feel it is worht fighting for then do what you can to get him to join the fight ie: counselling... etc... but whatever you decide do what's best for you.. and you only.. and remember everyone deserves to feel beautiful and valued as cheesy as it sounds its true.

You know, if you don't feel good about yourself guys can pick up on that. They can't pick up on the fact that we would just like a rose or help around the house every now and then , but they do know when you don't feel good about your body, and they will act accordingly. Try to think positive, if you can make yourself think you look hot and amazing, he will too. Sleep half naked, wear a button down shirt while vacuuming and forget to button it all the way up, go on dates. If you feel good about yourself, he eventually will see it, and that can be a huge turn on for a guy.