My ex Carlos and me were in a relationship for a year and a month it was good but we had some problems. It was a long distance relationship in the year that we were together he came to see me 5 times and I also went to see him. He was so nice he called me to say good morning when I came from school to say good night all of that and I loved it. We always use to chat and I was really happy I missed him a lot but I was happy. He came to see me for the holidays in December 2006 everything was perfect but then when he left everything suddenly started to change. When I called him he wouldn't pick up he wasn't getting online that often didn't call me as much so that really bugged me. As the day went by he didn't change and one time I didn't hear from him for 4 days he told me he was in someplace with his step dad OK I believe him but then I don't know he was talking diferently and I just couldn't take it and I broke up with him. This was in February and I really miss him and I want to be with him. After that I called him because I really wanted to know more before making a final decision and he knew that I wanted to get back with him to talk things out and make it right so he asked me if I wanted to go back with him and I said yeah and I was really surprised when he told me that he couldn't get back with me because this and that. I was really really hurt but I really missed him so I try again this time I send him an e-mail saying sorry and all of that he told me that we need to be separated for a while that he stills loves me but he is going through a lot and he didn't want that to get involved with us. He basically said to wait some time and then we can be together so I agree but now I see that is not going to happen and I really want to be with him am I wrong? Should I call him and talk to him again maybe differently please help me because I'm really confused and I really don't know what to do.

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Originally Posted by MPCR

My ex Carlos and me were in a relationship for a year and a month it was good but we had some problems. It was a long distance relationship in the year that we were together he came to see me 5 times and i also went to see him. He was so nice he called me to say good morning when i came from school to say good night all of that and i loved it. We always use to chat and i was really happy i missed him alot but i was happy. He came to see me for the holidays in December 2006 everything was perfect but then when he left everything suddenly started to change. When i called him he wouldn't pick up he wasn't getting online that often didn't call me as much so that really bugged me. As the day went by he didn't change and one time i didn't hear from him for 4 days he told me he was in someplace with his step dad ok i believe him but then i don't know he was talking diferently and i just couldn't take it and i broke up with him. This was in February and i really miss him and i want to be with him. After that i called him because i really wanted to know more before making a final decision and he knew that i wanted to get back with him to talk things out and make it right so he asked me if i wanted to go back with him and i said yeah and i was really surprised when he told me that he couldn't get back with me becuase this and that. I was really really hurt but i really missed him so i try again this time i send him an e-mail saying sorry and all of that he told me that we need to be seperated for a while that he stills loves me but he is going throught a lot and he didn't want that to get involved with us. He basically said to wait some time and then we can be together so i agree but now i see that is not going to happen and i really want to be with him am i wrong? should i call him and talk to him again maybe differently please help me because i'm really confused and i really don't know what to do.

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If he is saying he doesn't want to get involved with you at the moment then there isn't a lot you can do, if you pressure him and keep contacting him to talk about it, you may push him away even more. I would let him contact you which will be really hard for you to do but it's the best thing. If u have said sorry for youur part in things then you have done your part, if he is going through a lot and cannot tell you what it is then he obviously feels uncomfortable telling you. Maybe the distance is a problem, maybe there is someone else, maybe he is not ready. There are so many reasons, all of them you will probably not be happy with but what reason can make us happy when someone doesn't want to be with you? Its hard being in your situation if you haven't really spoke to him about it then call him, but if he wants to be left alone or just be friends I would say just leave him alone and do not call back.