I work with a girl who is expecting her second child. Here is my dilemma. This is her second child out of wedlock. Her first child is only a year and a half old. The father is a unreliable guy and only come surround when HE feels like it. The other girls that I work with feel sorry for her and want to give her a little help. We all put our money surround and bought her a really nice stroller/corset combo. Others are giving more. Corset that she should be a big girl and take care of her children herself. Am I being a really bad person if I don't contribute mor than my stroller share?:confused::confused:

No, why would you ?

You contribute to the stroller which in itself is already a nice gesture.

When other people want to do a bit more, that's their decision.

Don't feel pressured.

Just do it because you want to.
When you don't, then don't.

Absouletly not! Traditionally, she would not get a shower for a second child - especially so close to the last child. Sometimes, you might have a "diaper" shower or a "covered dish" party for the 2nd. But to go all out on a second child doesn't happen often - unless there a plenty of years between them.

Saying that - does she not have supplies from her 1st child?

Anything you can do to help I am sure would be greatly appreciated. Good for you.

You could help more if you wish to, but there is no obligation to have a shower for a second child, whether the mom is wed or unwed.

In my community women often give a "Mom's Party" for a second child, offering gifts for destressing such as spa gift certificates, a full housecleaning, and bath oils, as well as bring dinners over for at least a week after baby comes home so mom doesn't have to cook.

It is the thought and principle not the act or deed, done that is greatest. The fact YOU and your friends have even considered help is a testament to your principles of love, care and friendship. Well done.
The Act or Deed is a bonus and only a token of gesture to the true nature of your giving.
I say She should learn from your deeds and look after the kids and treasure your gift of giving and lending a hand.

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I'm a little mystified by a corset/stroller combination - sounds like a pretty uncomfortable corset! Anyway, if you contributed to one gift for a workplace shower, you've done your bit and needn't do more, nor explain why not.

As others pointed out, typically showers are only given for the first baby. Personally I am not a fan of the workplace shower which obligates people to part with part of their paycheck before they even leave the premises - I think it's nice for the employer to give a gift (ideally a check or gifts certificate) and leave it at that.

Please keep an eye on dates - this is from 2007.