A step-parent's relationship with a handicapped child
I am the step-parent of an 18 year old handicapped child who is not bathroom trained, has aggressive tendencies, and other behavioral issues that I am having increasing trouble coping with. The child's mother has primary custody of the child and his father and I have a regular visitation schedule. Due to the demands of his father's job, I am left to watch the child more and more. His mother's outlook is that during his father's scheduled visits, it's his 'problem' to find someone to watch him. That ends up being me. As the child, who is no longer a child, has gotten older, he has gotten stronger and his aggressive outbursts are harder to manage. I also am having a hard time cleaning him after he messes himself - I have tried everything I can think of to toilet train him, and speak with his teachers regularly. This is just a little, but I am at my wit's end and becoming more and more resentful towards my step-son and my husband. My husband refuses to address it with his ex as she can be impossible. So, how long does the custody
Order that we originally had in place pertain to a handicapped child and what resources can I seek to help me deal with my feelings of guilt and resentment as well as find some services to help manage his behaviors?