You know it took me two weeks and I can say I'm finally starting to feel better after my girl left me. The advice that everyone here is good solid advice, the hard part of it all is telling your heart just to let go. There are more important things in life to worry about than why someone decides to just up and leave. I believe that when you find someone who really is meant to work out, you both will know it as soon as it happens. Some people prefer to sever all ties to their ex, to just erase all memories, but all that does is hide the problems, push them away from you. I decided I was going to think about what I had, and then how my ex ruined it for me, but you can't get mad either, neither of those things are healthy, you got to learn about yourself. That's what this most recent girl taught me, it's that only you can make yourself happy and no one else can do it better than you can, take some time off, go for a drive, learn and push your limits, watch some sitcom(scrubs is really good) but the most important thing is to always look forward, Life' too short to hold a grudge or to not be happy. And you know what, maybe with time there will be hope, but you need to know yourself first to get there.

Good for you seabass. It took me longer, like a month and a half, and I still don't feel all that great. But I find such comfort in the future, looking forward is the most comforting thing to do. Even if you don't have plans, there's something about the unexpectedness of the future that gets me excited and hopeful.

I don't believe in free will, the universe made your partner leave because it was intended to happen that way, completely out of your control. Everything you said was what you would have ALWAYS said, and all the events that happened were going to happen. The universe has you, let it take you for a ride because what's meant to be will be! That's what makes me feel the best.

But it sounds like you are doing great, if you ever start to slip back, take a step outside yourself, a rely on the bigger, more grandiose picture. Maybe it helps that I just took a philosophy course heh heh good luck!

Good for you.. Yes it takes time but time heals all wounds and now that you are just now starting to feel better definietly don't go back with her because it will happen again and you will feel another 2-3 weeks of horrible pain!! Each and everyday will get easier for you and you will find someone that is right for you and you will be glad that you did. I am sorry that you had to go through the pain and I know the pain of not being able to eat, sleeping bad and everything but time really works miracles and you will feel so much better but don't make the mistake of going back because you will have to go through the pain again. If she calls you in a month or even longer just tell her that it is over because the pain will be gone by then and you don't want to go through it again and you don't deserve it. Women do this sometimes and if she left you once then she will do it again or if vise versa the same thing will happen.

Elaborating on what I said miss. When you talk about it was not mRant too be that is totally wrong. Sorry to say but for the people who SAY there is a plan out there for everyone and if its meant to work out it will you have to just sit back and let thingsunfold everyone has a plan for them.

TOTALLY WRONG. You are in control of what is going to happen and you can choose to either create something which you want or you can sit here and say well it was not meant to be and obviously that was not my mission in life!!

That is for people who don't believe and they just say that when things don't work out. Parents say things like that to their kids when ythey break up

THINGS WHICH ARBNT RIGHT LIKE SHE Wasn't MEANT FOR YOU OR IF SHE WAS THE ONE IT WOULD HAVE WORKED OBVIOUSLY IT Wasn't MEANT TO BE

WRONG WRONG WRONG TOTALLY WRONG!!

You will get what you want if you learn how to get it. Life is a wonderful thing but it is a huge game , We ar all born into the game and whoever plays best will get the rewards, along the way some lucky people are given better oportunities thanothers but this will alwasys be the case. But if you want to create the life which you want you need to know how to act and be to obtain that. Inrelationsips you must learn what works and if seabass had of known the game he would still be wth his girl now That's RIGHT NOW! NOW

Actually Mckenzie134 I see where you're coming from but, then there's the other school of thought which is one I am more in tune with, and it works quite well for me, basically that is to understand that the universe seems to manifest what we need most when we need it most, look up 'the laws of attraction' and its not about attraction to the opposite sex so much as it is about the subconscious mind manifesting things into reality or attracting what you desire in by means of some kind of universal electrofrequeomagnetism lol making up words as I go here anyway...

If you find that your confidence suffers because you are scared of the actions you will take around a female you like or female you potentially like, remember this there is no such thing as a mistake with mrs right...

You know ultimately if you were to go out every night and just be UTTERLY ludicrous i.e. acting like a comedian or just being totally silly to women you found attractive, you'd learn some new techniques and confidences which in turn would make you attractive to them because you have a spine and you are not scared of messing up, OK so it might earn you some strange looks and slaps or rebuking remarks but over time you'd learn what works and what doesn't, a mistake is simply a way to gain a bit more life experience so really mistakes are the most valuable things we can ever hope for until we reach the pinnacle of mistakes which is success...

OK I'm getting sleepy now so hope that made sense lol