I've been married to my husband for almost a year. We dated 5 years prior to marriage. I have feelings for another man who's also married. We've never slept together, I've just performed oral sex with him. I love my husband, but I also have feelings for this guy who just happen to be a co-worker of mine. I see him I get weak in the knees. I've been faithful from the start of my relationship with my husband. Help! What should I do?

Oral on another ,other than your husband is cheating. Ask Hillary. Stop having sexual contact, and leave this guy alone. There is no excuse for cheating except being selfish and uncaring.

You should stop cheating -- unless you want out of the marriage. Then you should get a divorce. Also consider that you are being used. How could you feel good about yourself right now? That wouldn't make me weak in the knees.

You need to stop what your doing until you've made a decision your husband doesn't deserve this. Remember the grass isn't greener on the other side and now you may be too late to save this relationship. If I were you I would admit my mistake and beg forgiveness or get a divorce and do some soul searching.

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Originally Posted by agreene80

I've been married to my husband for almost a year. We dated 5 years prior to marriage. I have feelings for another man who's also married. We've never slept together, I've just performed oral sex with him. I love my husband, but I also have feelings for this guy who just happen to be a co-worker of mine. I see him I get weak in the knees. I've been faithful from the start of my relationship with my husband. Help! What should I do?

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Just the other guy. Give him good sex but keep this relationship to a low level. Just don't tell your husband.

You need to put a stop to this! How would you feel if your husband came home and told you he was doing this with someone else?
If you don't want to be married - then get a divorce - but don't go around and ruin lives. That is what cheating does - ruins lives!
You made a vow - that is supposed to mean something!

By what you've said, it doesn't sound like you're in love with someone else. It sounds like infatuation, and the excitement of someone new. Be careful and think about what you are doing, it's easy to get caught up in that kind of situation and hard to stop. It's also very easy to confuse love with infatuation. Take care

This is a strange predicament... I am sort of going through a similar situation, but I have not acted on my urges. There is this guy who I have butterflies for. I don't know why this is. I have a husband and I too have been married for a year but in a relationship with him for about six. My husband is great and does everything for me and our kids.I know it is wrong to crave this other guy but I can't help it. I think in your case you should see what is really important to you and then decide, but just know that you should not play with your husbands emotions, but you are still entitled to be happy.