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  • May 18, 2007, 02:49 PM
    Dard
    Getting the erection and keeping it
    OK here's the thing. Up until last week I had absolutely no problems. Bt I donno why last week I suddenly couldn't do it. I mean I would get the erection then after 5 minutes lose it. Or the erection would be there bt when we had to have sex it would just go away this happened twice in the last week.

    Any advice? Before I had no problems, even with my current GF. Before with other girls it was really easy. I just looked at it as a need for the body. But with my current GF, who I am in love with, it's different. I want her to enjoy it more than me. If she enjoys it, then I enjoy it. I care about her too much that I want her to enjoy every time we have sex.

    Help me out here. Any tips on how I can keep the erection? *Never thought I would be asking this question*

    Thanks!
  • May 18, 2007, 09:05 PM
    steviebeezie
    If this were normal for you, that would be one thing. But if it's happened all of a sudden, there's a chance there's an underlying medical condition. See a urologist. There are many things that can cause men to loose their erections... body chemistry being complicated and all.
  • May 19, 2007, 12:09 AM
    Dard
    Thanks mate!

    Has anyone ever experienced this? Even if it was your 1st time having sex do tell me what u did to avoid it.
  • May 20, 2007, 07:26 AM
    Dard
    People I'm still waiting...
  • May 20, 2007, 09:29 AM
    E3317
    How old are you age plays a major role. Are you overweight, have an extremely large penis, high blood pressure, diabetes, high cholestrol, stress, anxiety or any other conditions. Just shooting in the dark It could be the fact that you want too much to please her and it is causing stress.
  • May 20, 2007, 07:09 PM
    Xrayman
    E3317 has a reasonable idea I'd go with too much stress to please her. Which is good for her, but may disable you a little if you are too stressed.
  • May 20, 2007, 11:57 PM
    Dard
    I'm only 19 and my penis size is quite normal. I'm an athlete so I'm not overwight. I think it's most definitely anxiety and stress. Never experiecned this 1 before! Do you have any suggestions how I can over come this?
  • May 21, 2007, 05:51 AM
    E3317
    I know this may sound strange, but create an image in your mind that you are only trying to please yourself. Don't think about her pleasure. If this works then it is a pretty good chance that your problem is anxiety. You may want to try things like meditation, slowing down. Lay her on her belly give her a old fashion back rub and plant tiny kisses all over her massage her. Concentrate on pleasing her should aleviate your anxiety. When you feel mentally ready move on to the intercourse.
  • May 21, 2007, 06:15 AM
    heinsite33
    Age and Medicines play a big role. I'm a senior and I can't get one no matter how hot I get./
  • May 21, 2007, 07:51 AM
    Andrew78
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dard
    OK here's the thing. Up til last week I had absolutely no problems. Bt I donno why last week I suddenly couldn't do it. I mean I would get the erection then after 5 mins lose it. Or the erection would be there bt when we had to have sex it would just go away this happened twice in the last week.

    Any advice? Before I had no problems, even with my current GF. Before with other girls it was really easy. I just looked at it as a need for the body. But with my current GF, who I am in love with, it's different. I want her to enjoy it more than me. If she enjoys it, then I enjoy it. I care bout her too much that I want her to enjoy every time we have sex.

    Help me out here. Any tips on how I can keep the erection? *Never thought I would be asking this question*

    Thanks!

    I used maxidus pill to maintain my erection and have enhance my sexual performance . For the past 1 year, I encountered this problem too. I'm only 29 years old. Due to work and stress, I really can't maintain my erection and lose it less than 5 minutes. Due to work, I smoke a lot too. After taking it for the past 6 months, I have no problem with it. At times, even I don't consume it I can still can maintain my performance. You should try it too. I get it from Maxidus - All Natural Sexual Enhancement - For Men and Women
  • May 22, 2007, 04:42 PM
    Manny Mo
    I have this same problem. I used to have no problem keeping an errection, but now I can only keep it for a couple minutes at a time. For me it is all phsychological. I was fine until I had sex with someone I wasn't attracted to, but tottally in love with. In that experience I lost my errection quite often and then it kind of snow balled into my future relationships. It got to the pointe where I was afraid to have sex with anyone because I was afraid of getting embarrassed by losing my erection. If you continue to let this bother you it will just get worse and worse until you really have a problem. I am only 34 and now take viagra when I have sex with my fiance'. It works great and after performing enough times without losing my erection I start to believe I no longer have a problem. I have done it many time now with her without viagra and haven't lost my erection. I don't recommend this for everyone, but it works for me. For you it seems like you are trying too hard and deep down you are afraid you won't be able to satisfy her. This is causing you performance anxiety. My advice is to stop thinking about it so much and just worry about pleasing yourself. Hopefully after a couple of sessions of getting your rocks off without losing your errection, you can then focus more on pleasing her along with yourself. Also, think about new and exciting ways to spruce up your sex life. This alone may help you snap out of your funk. By the way I am no doctor in any means and this is just my opinion as someone who has already gone what you have been through. Hope it helps!
  • Sep 27, 2009, 06:03 PM
    recoil333
    Hey! I know this as old post, but I would like to know if you solved this problem..
    I am 19 and I have exactly the same problem.. even the thing about wanting to please her more than me.
    I'm going to try thinking of myself more when we try again.
    Let me know if you solved it!
  • Oct 5, 2010, 05:48 PM
    fernylopez
    Dude no joke you just describe what I'm going threw I kid you not, I'm also 19 and I'm wondering why I'm having this problem now. It's never happened to me before either and I don't know what to do, have you found a solution?
  • Oct 5, 2010, 06:03 PM
    Cat1864
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by fernylopez View Post
    dude no joke you just describe what I'm going threw I kid you not, I'm also 19 and I'm wondering why I'm having this problem now. It's never happend to me before either and i don't know what to do, have you found a solution?

    fernylopez, this thread is over three years old. I don't think you are going to get an answer from the op.

    If you would like advice to help you with your own problem, please start a new thread with a bit more background information.

    Thank you.

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