I seem to wake up every morning with a heartache. I dream about the person almost every night. From 5 o clock and on I do fine but morning and work is terrifying! Also, I am talking to a few girls but I feel guilty because I feel like I'm doing something wrong and it doesn't feel the way it did with my ex. It's been a month and a half. I had tickets I got her to make her dreams come true and put her on a plane to P.R. but now I asked my cousin to come with me. That's okay, but I'm still missing her even though I know I'm better off and she didn't respect me at all. I just miss the good times. Actually I conacted her 3 days ago and she was really mean to me and hung up on me again... So it felt good to be reminded of how lucky I am to be without her, but now three days later, I'm forgetting how mean she is and she's becoming an angel again in my head and I'm missing her and when she was nice to me in the first few months. What's going on? Also, I'm talking to girls but I don't want a girl to take the pain away, because if they leave, the pain will return. I want a different method I guess... What's going on with me? And why am I only okay when I get home? Or outside?

Epo... I am right there with you. Your relationship and mine sound very similar. I too, find that sometimes are easier than others... I sleep OK at night, but wake up to that awful hollow, heartache feeling at 5am every day. I believe that this will lessen in time. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger... I read on someone's tag here that "If God brings you to it, He will get you through it." So true... I am trying to rely on my faith and know that everything happens for a reason... and what is meant to be will be, No Matter What. I am slowly realizing that my relationship really was not good for me. I know I'll fully get there one day... and so will you. Just remember when the bad times come, just Breathe. It will pass... it always does. Good Luck... I'm with you! We'll get through this!!

I agree with hurting a lot.. and it's true.. God will only give as much as you can handle.. you need to remember the times she was mean to you and time thes she disrespected you, because quite frankly you do NOT deserve that. I mean relationships have their problems... but disrepsect is def. not an option.. time will def. heal your problem.. stay busy.. try to meet new girls because you can --dont worry about them taking your pain or them hurting you.. take a risk! Live! It will all work out for you in time :)


p.s. -- I know girls and guys are equally as crazy :)

OMG! You both just made me cry so much. Especially when you said we'll get through this. Some people think that it's just another problem and that it's a phase, but nobody really understands the power this has. It can ruin or lives badly. Just know that you two understand so well and let me know that you are with me makes me feel so much better. I can't stop crying. I can't believe it's over, and this whole process is new to me since I'm only 22. Life is crazy at times. I guess this is part of growing up. I think I still have this 5% chance of taking her back, because there is still love and it's lessened because of this site. I'm sure a little more time and the 5% will be gone. And I can't wait, so that I can be happy and show that I don't need them. After I gave my trust, my everything, and did everything possible for them and showed how much I love them, and then they throw it away. I can't wait till I get over this. I will be so happy! I am going to church this Sunday. Today I am going to get a haircut and then do some exercises and then watch the movie closer. I hope this will make me feel better. But I think the two of you helped the most. Thank you so much. I stopped crying now... lol I just feel happy now. I wish I could give you two a piece of cake!

Epo... I am glad you are feeling good right now. Try to keep these thoughts around for the next time you're getting down. (That's what I try to do... Lord knows the bad feelings come back again and again... ) I just keep trying to remember how bad this relationship was for me... everyone saw it but me. I made every excuse for it... but I often felt very dis-satisfied and wondered "What the hell am I doing??" If they think they can find happiness elsewhere... GOOD LUCK! I am better than all of that crap!

Your so welcome... live your life how YOU want to.. and never apologize for who you are... words I live by... and I'm only 20 :)

Are you both male or female?

Female

I'm a girl too!

Well I'm going to be your online boyfriend from now on... Lets see how this goes... lol Maybe it can keep our mind off other things.

It takes time to get over someone.

Just do the things you love and a good outcome will come out of it.

How cute :) LOL

Lol... I just want this to be over. I feel like it will be forever to find someone new and for it to be normal and comfortable again. I don't think it will be the same. Maybe it will be exciting. I'm just afraid of the whole process... The whole getting to know someone again. Sucks!

It will all work out in the end... No Matter What... It always does. Lord knows I have been heartbroken before... and I got over it. I can do this! You can do this... (My new online B/F!! )

Hey my new online GF!! Lol I don't like this process. It hurts sometimes! :(

My screenname is freezinflames187... im me

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Originally Posted by emopunk7

I seem to wake up every morning with a heartache. I dream about the person almost every night. From 5 o clock and on I do fine but morning and work is terrifying! Also, I am talking to a few girls but I feel guilty because I feel like I'm doing something wrong and it doesnt feel the way it did with my ex. It's been a month and a half. I had tickets I got her to make her dreams come true and put her on a plane to P.R., but now I asked my cousin to come with me. That's okay, but I'm still missing her even though I know I'm better off and she didn't respect me at all. I just miss the good times. Actually I conacted her 3 days ago and she was really mean to me and hung up on me again...So it felt good to be reminded of how lucky i am to be without her, but now three days later, i'm forgetting how mean she is and she's becoming an angel again in my head and i'm missing her and when she was nice to me in the first few months. What's going on? Also, I'm talking to girls but I don't want a girl to take the pain away, because if they leave, the pain will return. I want a different method i guess...What's going on with me? And why am i only okay when i get home? Or outside?

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Dude you are so right, I'm finding it very tough in the mornings, I don't know why but every time I wake up I have that lonely feeling in my stomach and chest, that's the worst part of the day.

Its only been three weeks for me but the pain is dying down. Im glad I found this website, makes me realise I'm not the only one going through this right now.

How can the person that made you happy make you feel so sad?

Wow, I like the way u guys are healing through all of this together with this online dating stuff... Great... that's the spirit... all my best wishes to all of you

Because they are losers! We will rule the world some day and 10 years from now they will regret it and we will have moved way on!

Amen To That!!