I am 23 years old. 2 months ago my boyfriend of 8 years broke up with me. I have been lonely and heart broken ever since. I feel totally suicidal which I know is stupid, but I spend everyday not being able to eat or sleep because I miss him so much. I have lost over a stone but if I try to eat I just get sick. Many of my friends are currently away and I feel totally alone. Now he has a new girlfriend, a girl I used to teach. She is 16. What can I do to make it better? How can I move on if I don't even want to? How can I stop punishing myself for everything?

Your ex-boyfriend has already moved on with his live and now has a girl friend and I think you should realize that it's not your fault that he has moved on with some one else and you should be doing the same thing.

I know it's hard to forget because you love him, but you need to shake off that negative attitude, build self confidence and real certainty is bringing the consciousness of the happy ending into the middle of the story. Be in the energy of what you want and you will attract it.

Sometimes the best thing that can happen to you is the exact opposite of what you want to happen. G-d knows the past and the future, and He always has the sequence of events in your life in perfect order. As G-d said in Isaiah, everything He says will come to pass, so make sure that you're following Him.

Good Luck

There is no easy way out - but time really does heal all wounds. You cannot concern yourself with what he is doing. You must force yourself to do something every day that keeps you active either mentally or phsycally, whether it be going for a walk, going to the movies, take up a new hobby... anything to distract you and eventually you will build the self-esteem and confidence needed to move on.

"The past is history, the future is a mystery, but today is a gift that is why they call it the present."

There is no easy way out - but time really does heal all wounds. You cannot concern yourself with what he is doing. You must force yourself to do something every day that keeps you active either mentally or phsycally, whether it be going for a walk, going to the movies, take up a new hobby... anything to distract you and eventually you will build the self-esteem and confidence needed to move on.

"The past is history, the future is a mystery, but today is a gift that is why they call it the present."

He is dating a 16 year old? What... wow! Anyway.. you were together for 8 years-your allowed to sulk and be sad.. but only for a couple of months.. TOPS! You have a life to live.. your only 23.. maximize on life.. he moved on faster than you thought-and your allowed to do the same.. guys move on with no emotion, and faster than ever! Sometimes I wonder how they do it.. but hey, why can't you! Spend time with family, meet new people (especially new guys-they'll make this a whole lot easier, haha) keep yourself busy... this will be over in no time.. if that doesn't help.. always remind yourself he's dating a minor.. that will make you mad and you'll be over it in NO time :) good luck!!

Thank you everyone! Your responses are so much appreciated. I'm sure I'll be OK. And I feel a bit better today as I went out with a male friend and my ex sent me a crazy jealous e-mail. Hurrah!

Good for you, I am glad you're feeling better and you're moving on...

You need to move on, you need to find new hobby... you need to go travel, meet new people, going out and have fun... life has not stop because your ex, he just one of your previous relationship, but there will be plenty more and you have to be strong and believe in yourself!! Love yourself and you will be happy soon enough;)

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Originally Posted by crJgirl

guys move on with no emotion, and faster than ever! sometimes i wonder how they do it..but hey, why can't you! spend time with family, meet new people (especially new guys-they'll make this a whole lot easier,

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I don't agree that 'guys' move on so quickly without emotion at all. That's such a stupid statement. Everyone is individual and copes in their own different ways. Other than great statement ;)

I guess its easier to move on if you are the one who break off the relationship, because you are the one who wants to end it, not your partner. Its only depends on situation and who you are in it. Its very hard to do even for the one who is breaking it, but its much easier for them, because they are not in love anymore or maybe never were... but we all been there and have done that before... Take it as a learning curve in your life and see what went wrong in your relationships... move on and build up your trust and confidence again:) Good luck:)