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  • May 14, 2007, 04:47 PM
    burstbubble
    I am unsure of how to deal with life with so much going on and if it is even worth it
    Hi first I should explain a bit about what has been happening in my life recently, background info as it were.
    I moved out of my parents house 6 months ago due to not getting along with my mum and step dad, my profile explains about my dad. I then moved into a house share which is nice and I live with great people. But I am in a 3rd year at college I had to repeat a year, I try to hold down two jobs, go to college 4 days a week and also have a social life at the same time. A lot of my close friends are either at university or have full time boyfriends. So although I always have friends around me a lot of the time they do not understand me as well as my 'girlies' do. Money is tight so I need my two jobs to keep living and I don't want to move from where I am because I'm lucky where I ended up and do not want to claim benefits from the government. I would see it as almost cheating people out of money that could go on better things. But I have exams coming up now and recently I just feel that everyone lets me down. I have always tried to be there for my friends and appear to be a strong out going person but really I am tired all the time and work and college are suffering. I want to go to university and plan to in September but I am unsure I can get my grades. Any guy I seem to fall for messes me around, my last, behind my back he slept with a supposed friend that I had tried to help out less than 2 days after we had stopped speaking. People just walk all over me and I don't feel like life is worth living, I was out for a night at the weekend soba because money is tight but I also work late. To be honest I thought if this is what life is like I don't want to be here. Please someone help me because I really am unsure of how to deal with this.

    Many thanks in advance :confused:
  • May 18, 2007, 01:28 AM
    insummer
    It's sounds as though you are really worn out and I guess that's not surprising given everything you've got on your plate at the moment. Don't be hard on yourself - be as good to yourself as you'd like your friends to be - and hopefully they'll follow your lead. Confide in someone that you feel isolated and unsupported. Ask them to help. Eat well - it's always hard the first year or so out of home to take the time to look after your diet. Remember that life is essentially good - it just sucks sometimes :) It gets better.
  • May 20, 2007, 06:34 AM
    FLAMEonfire
    Honey just what are you having a problem dealing with??? A friend being untrue ? Having to do alot at work ? School being hard ? Money being tight ? If you sit down and talk to 3/4 of the people around you, they are all going to have the same stories to tell. Take a deep breath and time some time just for you to relax ! What you are describing is life ! I know that sounds like I'm saying " oh well go do yourself in..." BUT that's not the case...What I'm saying is that we all deal with those types of problems and have to get through them !

    If we were all alone in the world then you would have a cause to say "stop I want to get off" but we're not alone. You have friends, you have you [which is the best friend anyone could have] and you have GOD ! Now I'm not OVER religious but I have many times thrown my hands up and said " I can't take it any more. Help me!" and help was there. I don't know where it came from, but "came" it did...

    Back away from your problems for awhile...go to the beach, have a cheap lunch by yourself, buy a bottle of cheap wine and call on a friend, do something interesting.....
    Then go back to your problems and handle them one at a time...You can do it.. !!!
    Good Luck: ;)

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