Originally Posted by Bontemps
I have been in a relationship for about 8 months, it is very complicated, as i am not her boyfriend, yet at times i have been.
I meet the girl randomly, and she has a lot of problems (anorexia, abuse, etc. just to name a few) Since i meet her, she has run to me with everything, while she was in re-hab, and even when she went back home, we also live about 2000 miles apart. We talked on the phone all the time, and i visit about once a month.
She never really wants to give in and have a relationship with me, yet she latches onto me and seeks me out for help and even acts as if we are in a relationship.
The times i have visited her, if it was a 3 day visit, things would be great the first night, after that, she constently told me she needed her space.
There is no doubt that in the past couple weeks she has not sleep with someoen else, which is hurtful to me. But just last week she had an incident and ended up in the hospital, she said she needed me so i droped everything and flew to her, i took care of her for a couple hours, when she started feeling better, she told me she could not breath around me and that i scared her and told me to leave or she would call the police.
Pissed i left, and wrote a long letter to her father, i talked briefly with him, and then her theripest called me, both indicated that they are planning an intervention and will try to get her some help, and thanked me so much for helping her.
She had a friend try and contact me the day after i left, and i gave her a piece of my mind, since that time, and i have not tried to contact her, she has blocked me from any means of contact i could have, i know because i did some back cheecking to see how she reacted.
I love this girl, but i dont know what to do, or even if she even cares about me, maybe it has just been i was there to help her feel better about herself.
Any thoughts on what i should do? I dont plan on talking to her for a while, but in time should i ever and should i forgive her?