For ages and ages I have been getting to know a lad in work dead well, for several months we have text everyday, at first I didn't feel the same way as we are complete opposites and occasionally I don't always agree with the things he says and does, but after months of getting to know him I saw past his bad sides and thought, well no one is perfect and I experienced a feeling with him like never before. He gave me all the signals he liked me just as much if not more, but deep down I never new whether it was just an act, based on some of his history I have heard.

I've let it gone too far, we both know that because of situations and the strictness of my parents we cannot be together in the near future, but I think we both still have hope of getting together one day. I became obsessed (wrong I know) but I sacked all my mates off just to sit in on myspace, Facebook etc waiting to speak to him, as we never met alone outside work just text.

Now after a year I think he has finally given up and got bored (not to say I don't blame him) but yet I cannot get over him. Worst thing is he is sending mixed signals, he has stopped texting, yet in work most times he is as flirty as ever if not more, yet sometimes he can more a less point blank me.

I spend my life thinking about him, day in day out waiting for texts and I cannot get him out my mind, no matter how hard I try.

It really upsets me but worst thing is I think he still feels something for me, as he told a girl in work that he still liked me but things would have to change and the way he still flirts in work and things, and I get the odd text every now and again saying night night and a loada kisses. Although it makes me cry with excitement to read that sweet but short text I often think well is he doing it just for peace sake, or does he mean it? And it wasn't all that long ago as in a few weeks back he was texting saying that I meant everythin to him and I always would and that I was the star in his life and his little gem and that he would always be by my side and how much he adored me and hoped me never ever drifted apart despite what the world threw at us, because he thought are friendship was too strong for anything to come between us (but the complete opposites happening now) was those texts words that meant nothing?

Please give me help and advice, as its messin with my head I cannot concentrate on anything and I have really important exams in the next few weeks and I NEED to pass them, at the moment I'm failing everything purely because I have become obsessed.

Can you tell us what county you live in, and how old you are. It seems there are culture issues such as parents telling you who you can see, which has to be a age or a culture issue

I am 18 and I live in the uk. I just have extremely strict parents. I tried talking to my mum about how I feel about this guy and she told me point blank that I DID NOT like him, and basically said how could I. I have to admit he does have some bad ways, but he is dealing with them slowly (it would take time) but I still adore him for who he is despite the issues, but as far as my parents are concerned my mum said, "a leopard never changes it spots" and then she continued to say, "end of...deal with it!"

Mom knows best dear!