I broke up with my ex-boyfriend almost three years ago because he was a verbally abusive jerk. I despise him. He will NOT leave me alone. Restraining orders will not solve the problem; they only intensify the problem. I want to know what can I do that will TOTALLY make him find me undesirable and leave me alone. I am miserable because I feel I have to keep looking over my shoulder. It appears that everyone who becomes involved with me becomes obsessed with me; therefore, I have disconnected from all of my relationships and live in fear that someone is going to come looking for me. And, they usually do, trying "back door" tactics to re-enter my life. I am nearly 50 years old; it would appear that men would find me LESS attractive than to continue stalking me. How can I get this abusive jerk off my back? Any tips on how to totally repulse men?

Always call the police and make sure you get a report. Sorry your dealing with a nut.

Restraining order is the only way to go. Call the police. Change your contact information. Get help from the police.

It is important that you write down and keep track of every incident that happens.