My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other every weekend for almost two years. He decided in January that he needed time and space from our relationship after we had been making plans for our future together. He wants to continue emailing and phone calls but not get together maybe every 3-5 weeks. He lives 300 miles from me. I am hurt and confused. He says it is him and I have done nothing wrong. My question is even though I love him very much, do I need to end the relationship or hang on hoping he will want what we had again?
Please help. I am an older person who was married a long time and have not dated very much. I love this man very much.

Sounds to me like you are forcing intimacy a little. Id look that up. But it is a shame that men need their space. Good thing is when they get it they will come back refreshed for you! On the other hand, maybe he is slowly trying to end the relationship. I don't know I hope not but you cannot be blind, it will hurt you more in the end. Good Luck

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Originally Posted by Sadgirl7

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other every weekend for almost two years. He decided in January that he needed time and space from our relationship after we had been making plans for our future together. He wants to continue emailing and phone calls but not get together maybe every 3-5 weeks. He lives 300 miles from me. I am hurt and confused. He says it is him and I have done nothing wrong. My question is even though I love him very much, do I need to end the relationship or hang on hoping he will want what we had again?
Please help. I am an older person who was married a long time and have not dated very much. I love this man very much.

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As hard as it is, these kind of things happen to a lot of people. From what I can tell from your question, is there are two issues going on: One - long distance relationship, which can be very taxing
And Two - Fear of commitment

If you want to see him once a month (which I'm sure will eventually dwindle down more) then stay in... but unfortunately you may be hanging on to hope for a long time.

He's made his intentions clear. Time for you to move on.

For me it sounds like his heart isn't in the relationship anymore, I'm not being harsh, just honest, I have been there where you are, long distance, and it hurts. We made it a year before we had to move in together, we couldn't take the distance anymore,250 miles.we got to see each other once per month for a weekend if we were lucky.
On the flip side of the coin, we couldn't wait to see each other, I'm not rubbing it in, I'm just trying to back up my initial thought that's he's not as into it anymore. After 2 years you guys should be getting somewhere and excited to see each other, if he wants less time together I don't think he wants to do it anymore.
Have an honest talk and tell him you just need to know where you stand.