My Aunt is only 4 years older than me. I love her to death. She has 2 children that she does not have custody of. She only sees them on the weekends she can afford to. She lives with her mother, my grandmother. She has numerous problems. I would love to help her, but she doesn't listen to me. For one, she falls for guys way too fast. After her and her ex got divorced, she moved in with his brother just as a roommate. Well, they ended up having an affair(brother is married with 2 children). He convinced her he was going to leave his wife who was expecting and also at the time in another state with their daughter. Well, he didn't, and it tore her up. I don't know if it was true or not because she wasn't even sure, but she thinks she was pregnant with his child. Well, she has been with guys since then, but only for one night stands. She has recently met this guy who lives next door to her. It has been a few months. He is active in the military and is leaving for Iraq at the end of the year. Here's the problem. She spends so much time with this guy who doesn't even acknowledge them as being a couple, just bedbuddies, she doesn't pay any bills at my grandmother's, who needs all the help she can get, when she gets her kids, she sends them to her mother's and heads next door to this guy. She buys her kids things to occupy them while they are next door. Her oldest is starting to question her grandmother about why her mother doesn't want to be around her and her brother. She is upsetting her mother and me as well because she is so stuck on this guy who is leaving! I hope I made sense with all of this. She called me a few days ago telling me that she told him that she loved him and it scared him so bad that he told her he needed some space. She is so lost, she needs help, but is too ignorant to do anything about it. I think maybe she is afraid to be alone. But those kids don't deserve to be treated that way. How can I help her?
