I have been w/my fiancée for 7 years. He is very understanding of many things. I am going back to college and he is currently supporting me. I know he would not be doing this if he didn't care for me and love me.
But, every once and a while I get that sixth sense that something he says or does isn't quite on the level.
He was on a call when I got home a month ago and he sounded like he was rushing to get off the call when I came in.
He then told me it was a GUY - a real estate agent - that an old friend had hooked him up with to help him find an investment property.
I didn't think anything of it even though I have a Real Estate Broker's license. I'm too busy with school to be very involved in RE.
In the next few days, when I asked him if the agent had found anything worthwhile my fiancee's response made me suspicious. It wasn't what he said just the tone of voice.
I asked him again a few days after that and got the same sensation.
I then did snoop and on his computer found the 2 saved e-mails from not a MALE but a female real estate agent... typical RE e-mail saying she enjoyed their conversation and looks forward to working with him. I copied and pasted the link and went to her web site and of course she has the type of looks that he finds attractive. I was furious and asked him about this agent that his friend hooked him up with and in my questioning reminded him that I too have a license and I feel uncomfortable that he would go to another FEMALE RE agent for assistance. He then proceeded to explain to me that the guy his friend hooked him up with had his assistant contact him and that he just figured since I was busy why not let them look for him. He also stated that nothing good came up and he had never met with her and didn't have a clue as to what she looked like. (Her picture was in the link in the e-mail. - so he is lying.) He also said it "fizzled out" and he didn't ever call her back about the properties she had e-mailed him.
I have seen 2 more e-mails from her and an admittedly short response e-mail from him. ("I have been very busy this week and haven't had time to look over these yet. Happy Easter. John")
Yesterday I was talking to him in the kitchen when his cell phone (which was in his hand) rang and he walked to the other room to answer it. I followed to get something I needed out of the bathroom. I heard a female voice on the other end and him saying "Yes, I got them and I have them in front of me I'll look over them and call you back." He hung up and proceeded to tell me that was a lawyer who sent him some papers about his parents retirement...
Again for some reason this didn't sound honest.
Last night when he showered I looked at his inbound calls and took note of the number from the time of that call. It was in fact that real estate agent's cell number.
I confronted him and asked him why he would tell me a lawyer called when it was a real estate agent? He got furious and insists that it was a lawyer and it was regarding his parents.
Why is he lying about this??
I asked him why he doesn't just tell me something honest like: "yes - the agent called and I blew her off ..."?
He started yelling that "if she had called I would say that but since she hasn't called or e- mailed me but once, I can't say she called!"
He is lying because she has e-mailed him at least four times and she clearly did call him yesterday.
WHY WOULD A GROWN MAN LIE ABOUT THIS??
Someone help me understand.

This is just my opinion but I think from what the emails say he's telling the truth about not cheating on you or has no interest in her.

I do, however, get the feeling he is looking for a new place to live which is what he's probably being so protective of. From what you write, I'm guessing he wants out of the relationship but needs a place to stay until he can find a new place which is where the Real Estate agent comes in. As you state you could have handled this if it was investment properties but I doubt he's looking at that for the investment but rather a place to either stay for purchase and stay at.

Hi,

Chuff, thanks for your response.

I didn't want to write too much but, the list of properties she sent him were really for his work- fixerupper inverstments- not places to move into.
He insists he cares for me and wants to be with me and only me.

I just don't understand why he would lie too my face about receiving a call from her the other day and he also lied and insists that her e-mails didn't have her pic or any links to pics of her.

What gives??