OK this is my story me and my boyfriend have been together 3 years he's 16 years younger I left my family for him I did not love my husband I was looking for something else I found him but now we have a bay she's 8 months and we have not had sex in a year he rather watch porn and joff than be with me I love him and I hate being in this positsion with him cause I feeel he doesn't want me sexually any more our sex life was great when we first got together than I had a baby gain some weight and now I feel alone whatdo you all think

He's 16 years younger? How old are you two?

I feel for you girl! You are in a tough place. I guess he may be too immature and superficial for you. Maybe what you both thought you wanted got mixed up with real life and responsibilities. There isn't really anything romantic about paying bills and changing diapers. I wish there was an easy answer. It all begins with you. You have to start focusing on yourself. It isn'tsomething that comes naturally when you have a baby. I am guessing that the baby gets all your love and attention. That is good, but you have to save some for you. If you don't do anything to make yourself feel worthy and loved, nobody else will see that it is a priority. Stop searching for the answer within him. He won't change who he is, but you can change the way you feel about yourself and how you respond to him. That can have an affect on him. Try to focus on you. Do something that raises your confidence. Find people to talk that give your ego a boost. Love yourself regardless of what he does. I know his behavior depresses you and immobilizes you, but only you allow him to have that power. Take some power back so he can see the woman he fell in love with. Maybe then he will desire a more intimate relationship with you. The reason he wanted you in the first place is because you seemed so powerful and together. He wants you to be the strong woman he first met. He doesn't seem to know who you are right now. Reclaim yourself and know you are beautiful and loved. You have to tell yourself that everyday, then he will see you as the wonderful person you are. Keep talking to people and don't isolate yourself, other people will help you get through this. I wish you inner peace and much happiness.

What family did you leave for him? I know you feel alone, but he is so much younger than you, you had to have known you wouldn't like the same things at some point and time. Did you break up your marriage for this guy? Is that what I am getting from your post?