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  • May 7, 2007, 11:13 AM
    cocacola
    Ex playing huge mind games?
    Here is some background on my story.

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ent-88141.html

    My ex has been emailing me, because she seems to be upset she says she doesn't want to be with me but she sends me emails like this all the time. Keep in mind while reading this that I told her I just need to get away and go stay with my dad out of state for the summer and Kim is my ex's friend that told me she had been seeing another guy.

    "Hey-it upsets me so much that you would leave. I can't believe it, granted I screwed up I just dont think that is the solution. I know you want to see your dad but do you have to stay gone all summer? I mean jeez. I dont think that is the answer to your problems. I can't believe you would go down there with no internet or anything. Actually I forgot all your friends are down there. But still, I will miss you like crazy, just because we arent together doesnt mean I dont love you and I have not replaced you, I dont care what you say. Im not getting into another relationship either, regardless of what you think. Just dont listen to Kim about anything because its all lies and bull and it hurts you. Im so sorry that you ever thought I thought it was a waste with you it wasnt, every moment was precious. I just dont know what to say to you right now to make you stay. You are gonna go regardless of what I say, I just wish you werent going because of me. Please dont find someone else down there and replace me. I would be crushed. I will think of you every day and count down the days until you come back if you go. I will be so sad and I hope you will have your cell phone and will be talking to me still. I just wish you wouldnt go and I am so crushed. email back please."

    What is she doing? Why does she say stuff like this? Is she just playing the hell out of me?
  • May 7, 2007, 11:23 AM
    diya
    Now let me tell you if you want to get back with this girl, this is the time to play your cards right! She is missing you and if you fall for her instantly, she would take you for granted, so go slow, write back with a simple message as" hey, will keep in touch" and things will fall in place... if you want it at all... good luck...
  • May 7, 2007, 11:30 AM
    cocacola
    Thanks diya, its just real confusing because she will say things like "dont find someone else and replace me" when she kind of already did that to me... I mean she has admitted to liking somebody else...
  • May 7, 2007, 11:51 AM
    diya
    She is confused and getting you confused... don't get confused hun. She'll be all right once she knows you are just indifferent to what she is doing... at the same time stay natural...
  • May 7, 2007, 12:45 PM
    AW805
    I think you need to take some time away from each other. Spend the summer with your Dad and don't make any contact with her. What's important is what you need. You need someone you can trust and not take advantage of you or treat you like a door mat. Enjoy some time with your family and friends.

    That's just my opinion. But I think your mind is already made up.
  • May 7, 2007, 12:59 PM
    talaniman
    I think your on the right track, and should continue on that road. What's the hurry to do anything, except what you want to do.

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