Hi everyone, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 yrs now, and I have yet to have an orgasm. He has been my 1st and only. We tired many things and nothing yet. I'm 21 now, and I thought it was just me, but it seems I'm not the only one so I've heard. Will it ever happen? Or could I actually go through life and not experience this?

Trying too hard. Trying everything, forcing an orgasm will just make it not happen.

This experience will happen eventually. You need to relax, and he needs to do lots of foreplay.

Joe

Dear Friend ,

I think you have tried this too early of your age.
You should have spent 2-3 years with your boyfriend in talking to him , understanding him better or even making him & yourself coming closer & have a physical relationship as an accident rather than a planned activity.

Any way , you can still reach Orgasm by remaining relaxed & not getting contious about this thing during your physical exercise.

All the best.

Im Having The Same Problem I Guess You Have To Do Things Your Way The Way It Feels Really Good For You You Should Have Him Relax And You Take Over The Job That Way Work Cause Ur In Contol And U Know What Feels Good What Doesn't

Can you get yourself there by self stimulation?

Can he get you there orally?

Lets start there.

well... actually when it comes to oral... he has given me this.. feeling.. like it comes really fast.. last a few seconds then fades.. im not sure what it is.. it has happened repeatedly, but I'm in the sense of thinking an orgasm is full blown feeling, cumin and all!<- that part has not happened. Yes I've heard the phrase"you've started too much of a young age".. but I also known girls who've done this at a younger age and have had orgasims! When it comes to feeling relaxed.. its kind of hard.. im a self conscious person.. I have things about me that I may not like.. and when I'm boyfriend looks at me during sex I feel like " don't look at me so much".. and may pull him closer so he can't really get a good look.. he tells me how beautiful I am and I'm thinking "wateva".. so being relax is difficult for me! =o(

But you have to relax... otherwise it won't happen.

Be confident in bed women and you'll be surprise what you can achieve ;)

Use a vibrator (any thing that vibrates) on your clitoris when you are alone.

Like has been said in other threads...

#1 you have to be able to relax and not stress. With a woman its about 90% mental state.

#2 He has to have a clue as what to do. It's a fact many men don't know 1% about what they think they know when it comes to pleasing a woman this way.

#3 You really have to know what it takes to get off so you can teach him. If you don't know how then its no minor miracle to expect him to. No two women are exactly alike in how they like their buttons pushed.

I think you're trying to hard. Only when you're 100% comfortable with yourself will you experience an orgasm

Thank you all for your insights! I really do appreciated it.. (vibrators.. have tired.. its ok)now here's another that might have to be worked on... My boyfriend has a tendency to to quick.. hence.. most of the time sex doesn't last that long.. I ask why and he states.. "its the way you look, how you sound".. etc.. he says he tries to think of other thinks to zone me out!. but.. 90% of the time it doesn't work.. he tries masturbating before sex and after he's good to go.. for hrs, but then I get tired and want him to already... could this also be a problem why I haven't had an orgasm yet? I've heard when I mans sex drive is to high.. like he always wants sex.. and tries to get the women into it.. she looses interest in sex eventually... but if he backs off.. shes interested... at times I've felt like that, like "get away from me".. is this normal?. lol I'm sorry if I'm throwing too much questions out there!. ive recently found this site and it seem quite helpful, with everyone's point of views!.

Well, he can learn the art of self control, but it does take time and unfortunately I can't put into words how to do it. He basically has to be able to pace himself while allowing you to get in the right position so you are most stimulated (and its also a state of mind thing). It isn't easy to learn but in time he might if he really wants to.

In the mean time maybe he should just spank the monkey about an hour before you plan to do your thing together.