Hi, so I met this guy who is very handsome, sweet, kind, practically everything... we went out a couple of times and had a great time... for some reason I got a suspision that he had a girlfriend and I would ask, and he kept telling me no... so about a month after we met he finally told me he did... I was so upset... I told him he was a scumbag and that he didn't understand what its like to be a girl and not know that your bofriend is cheating on you... he says that she doesn't make him happy... he tells me that she is a good person, but he's not attracted to her anymore and breaking up with her would be the worst thing he could do to her?. whatever... I tried to break it off, but he's just such an awesome person to be with that I can't help myself... help...

Well first off it seems to me that you're very intuitive, it's good that you had at least a "feeling" that he could have a girlfriend, it's ALWAYS good that when you follow your gut and you even tried calling him out on it! Anyway the sad thing is as AWESOME as he is he's STILL with someone ELSE, someone that's NOT the wonderful YOU. Even though this girl doesn't make him happy he's still with her and you deserve someone that JUST wants YOU. Also too as cool as he is it'd be good to pay attention to how easy it was for him to lie to your face after you asked him (repeatedly) if he had a girlfriend, I mean how you do know he's even telling the truth about how this girl treats him? I hope this helps you a little bit but REMEMBER you deserve the BEST of the BEST, don't settle for anyone less than that... Bye
-Estheroo:)

So this guy lies... he cheats or at least tries to, he goes out with other girls when his girlfriend is at home, he doesn't sound like much of a cool person to me.
Let him go and find somebody who isn't going to lie to you.. or his girlfriend.

Obviously you are not the only one falling for his charm and awesome ways. Don't be stupid though, since you know what he is, and can do to your heart. Find you a fellow who is as awesome, but honest. Follow your head, not your heart.

I've seen this so many times. I've even been there and done that and it always ends in tears. Men like this are charmers. They tell you what you want to hear. He'll tell you he isn't in love with her but she will be devastated if he breaks up with her. I've even heard of guys saying he worries about what she will do if he does. He'll promise you he wil;l leave but there will always be a reason not too. Her gran will die, she'll be ill etc. But the right time may never come. Even if it does he may do this with someone else behind your back later. You're a smart girl, tell him where to go. Tell him if he wants to be with you, to call you when he is single but not before. X