Can I get my girlfriend back?
My girlfriend and I met about 4 months ago, and quickly fell into each others arms with trust and confidence. She waited 3-4 weeks to go out with me until she was completely sure, and I couldn't be happier about it now. I could have a great deal of fun with this girl, and I also thought she was amazingly interested in me. About 3 weeks in, she started thinking about a relationship she had just gotten out of. It bothered her, and I could tell. After time, she was completely over the relationship and explained to me how miserable she was with him. She even said I had saved her more than once. She also had told me about her depression issues she had before.(she had resorted to mild self-mutilation) That bothered me a bit, but she insisted that this relationship was tons and tons better than all of her other ones. We talked about our past relationships a bit, but we were comfortable talking about it. There was absolutely nothing wrong. We got into 2 mild fights if I remember correctly, but time gave us benefits and we only fell deeper into this crazy thing called "love".
Unfortunately, 1 week ago I said some things on the phone I truly didn't mean. We were distant for only a day, and got back into the strive of things after I sent her a simple email explaining how sorry I was, which she called back, and we talked. We completely made up after a concert that night she invited me to. It was such a relief and I was really happy about how we could make up easily for things that seemed difficult to repair.
Everything seemed 100% fine until 2 days ago.
We have many classes together at our HS, and early in the day she came to me incredibly sad. She said her dad had left for another state once more, and that she didn't enjoy the sport she was out for, and some kids made fun of her for "cheating" in the 7th grade. (the immaturity it takes to say like that to someone is beyond me) I hugged her and told her everything would be better. I hate to say that has been I lie up to this point.
We went out for lunch and we had small talk, and were quite quiet until I told her I had a tennis meet that day.
I had invited her before, but her brother was having a surgery early in the morning, and though she was free she wanted to stay with him for the afternoon. Then, it was completely fine because we watched a movie that night and I had never felt so in love
Anyway back to 2 days ago. She offered to go to my tennis meet that day. I remembered how she never wanted to play tennis with me. I didn't even think of the day I just mentioned and said a horrible line on a horrible day.
"Oh, now you want to go"
She instantly said she was going to forget I said that, but I started being sulky and sorry and pathetic. She obviously didn't like that. That night she said she needed a break.
Instantly I was sad, I was overwhelmed with fear for our relationship. I told her I didn't think we needed that, and she didn't seem sure either.
Her"So, i think we should-"
Me-"take a break?"
Her-"sure"
I told her to wait a minute and I asked her if that's what she really meant. She kept saying "sure" and I she told me to calm down and get some sleep.
The next day (yesterday) she seemed fine, we talked, I made her laugh, everything seemed normal.
I went to lunch with her again with some of her friends. One of her friends made a joke about how she used to not have much time between boyfriends, and she took serious offense to that. I walked outside with her and I comforted her a great deal. Then, out of nowhere she stepped back with a slight smirk and asked why I was comforting her. I quietly said it was because I wanted to. Then we didn't say much.
I talked to her later (probably against her will) and asked if she wanted me to go to her youth group. She said she'd call me about it.
I went to my friends after school to hang out, and there's no service at his house. I didn't think of that. I never received a call. So, naturally, I didn't go.
I called her later to basically say good night, even though we were "taking a break"(although it didn't seem like one" she sounded like she liked the idea of it. I kept talking and we sorted out why i didn't go to youth.
This morning, she ignored me. She was pretending to be overly-happy and bouncy. I tried not to think about her, but naturally it was SOOO hard. I asked if i could talk to her during lunch, she said she didn't but after a pause she said she was listening.
This is the biggest mistake i've made. Although i didn't feel this way, i want to be macho and said i didn't want her to take her problems out on me. She said that this "break" might end up being more permanent.
I just sent her an email explaining how much I cared for her and how much I loved her. I stated she could have all the space she needed, and that I needed her. It was very deep and I haven't received a reply.
Okay,
What should I do? Should I giver her space? Or keep contacting her until I persuade her?
Can this relationship be saved? If I truly love her and appreciated her, and she does me, can this be fixed?
Do you think she still has feelings for me?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much in advance.
-JPRyan91
