I found out that my wife became very close "friends" with another man during a recent festival. They sms each other on a daily basis. When I confront her she gets very upset and defensive. I know my wife wouldn't cheat on me but I'm scared she will leave me for this other man.

We have been married now for 6 years and we have 2 great sons aged 2 and 6. I love my wife with all my heart but I lost the trust in our relationship... how can I find out if she still loves me or not.

I fell like confronting this other guy but is scared that this will mess thing up even further... don't know if I would be able to keep my cool when I see him... I'm sure I will attack him and it would be on hell of a fight...


Is there anybody who can assist and/or help me find some answers

Well firstly if you attack him and hold one hell of a fight I can guarantee you will p*ss your wife off big-time and prove your insecurities.

However, I don't see why your wife has to sms this guy all the time.
I wouldn't like it either, so I'm with you on this one.

What does she have to say about her relationship with him?

She tells me that they are just friend but 127 sms's in four days is a bit excessive... I pay the cellphone account so I get to see the bills... she even sms him when I'm home and sometime at 2&3 in the morning. Phone calls lasts 10 min a time... am I being paranoid or not...

I asked her to decide wheather I must go or stay... that took her 5 days to "decide" and last night she gave me this answer : "you are here and i am here, isnt that what you wanted" and fell asleep.

She keeps on telling me she loves me but can't prove it in her actions... what do you think I should do ?

I would not like it! No way.
123 sms is very accessive. Is she aware that you see the cellphone a/c and get to see who and when she is smsing this guy?

Actions speak louder than words and I wouldn't fall for it.

Stand up for yourself!
This is out of order.

Use reverse physcology and ask how would she like it if you sent an accessive 123 sms's to some other lady!

I've done it all... I'm can't take this anymore... she says they are friends when confronted... about 3 days ago she took her pre-paid phone out of the cupboard and took it to work with her. Now the sms's stopped showing on my account... I speculate that she is smsing him on the other phone now?

And she said she wouldn't care less if you sent an accessive amount of sms's to another women?

I didn't even send that amount of sms to my boyfriend when we were long distance, IMO there is something going on,sit her down and talk about everything, tell her how it is making you feel and tell her she has a decision to make.