To make a long story short, I have filed for a divorce and hired a private investigator, and had a temporary hearing. Currently, I am awaiting a final divorce. Meanwhile, Iam still angry over the blood stained pants, lies, dishonesty, and calls to his whore while I was in the hospital( with a heart condition, I'm only 45). I also found out that this is not the first time he has cheated on me. I want to write him and his lover a letter. I know that someone is going to tell me to invest my time & energy elsewhere and move on. But, I just feel that it would lift a burden off my shoulders and I can finally begin to heal.

Honestly the chump ain't worth it. Don't let him bring you down. If you have been blessed with a second chance please don't waste it on that. I hope you find your way, but please don't walk that path.

I think it will make you feel better. However,becareful on how you aproach the situation. Don't be insulting,just be direct on how you feel and show them both you are better than them by "not" lowering" yourself to their standarts.

You should be careful not to say anything that could be used against you during a future hearing.

Honey, this is such a painful situation and my heart goes out to you. I am very much like you and would want to do the same thing myself.

It may help if you would write the letter, exactly how you feel right now, then sleep on it. Read it again in the morning and decide if you still want to send it out. Sometimes it helps just to get these feelings out, and writing them helps, even if you don't end up sending the letter to him.

One caution though: if you do decide to send the letter tomorrow, be careful as mentioned in another post, not to incriminate yourself or make yourself seem unstable, especially if there are children involved.