I recently met a french man living in france who is now 37...
We met online, fell in love over the internet, met each other in person and the feelings
Are
Strong between the 2 of us... its been a year and he's been to the usa three times to visit and I've been to france once.
He has basically spent over 40,000 just to find ways to visit the USA and also for me to visit him in france... the only problem is that he admitted to me that his ultimate fantasy is
1. performing oral sex to a male... and
2.Taking it from a male in the back side...
His fantasy is limited to these 2 acts specifically...
He is simply turned on by just a penis only and not by a man. He thinks women are more beautiful...
He also brought to my attention that he only fantasizes about oral and a penis when he is masturbating,
When he is bored of the same thing, and simply because its one of the only things he's never tried!
He also admitted that when he is having sex with me he fantasizes about me with other women... or me as a teen...
Also
Fantasizes of me
With multiple men at the same time... he is now in the usa with me for one more month... he has asked me to marry him and wants children... On the flip side...
I feel like maybe his fantasy is more of a psychological issue... The rest of his brothers and sisters are doctors and he is the only one who dropped out of college.. He was the only sibling to become envolved in the drug scene... Furthermore, the lifestyle and choices he has made up until a few years ago were extremely irresponsable...
In my mind perhaps he feels guilty of his past and that may be an underlying reason for his fantasy?

Does he have a wild imagination or is he gay?


PS- one last thing.. he admitted to me that when he was in his early 20's he got really drunk and allowed an older guy to give him oral...
This just makes me cringe even more..

Pss- I feel like getting him a male escort to see if this is what he likes!

I question most things French as a reflex. But that's about as much personal prejudice as it is based on facts.


However I think its more likely he has strong bisexual tendencies than he is gay. I would most definitely NOT call him a flaming heterosexual. Most gay guys prefer men over women, not vice versa. And the average straight guy doesn't fantasize about what he has. Not saying some haven't its just most won't.

Yeah, he sounds bi to me. He obviously still likes women because a person this sexually open would simply 'be' gay if that was what they wanted. It sounds to me like he has a very active imagination but the question is, are you OK with that? Are you certain that he will be happy to marry you and keep these things as a fantasy? If not are you willing to be part of these acts? Since you seen horrified by them I suspect you won't so be certain he is happy just to fantasize. It could just be that he has seen these things in porn but wouldn't do them. Also there are cultural differences involved here

You were going to get him an Escort? You sound like the most accepting and epicest girlfriend/fiancee/wife ever! Oh and he's not gay just curious, Trust me, I know. Oh, you could buy a strap on!

You did notice this thread is 5 years dead?