It seems everything I do is wrong! I can not correct my kids right, Iamb stupid etc..
At times I can be annoying complaining about messes, but lately I tried just keeping my mouth shut!

We never have a intimate relationship! Anymore! I am lucky if we have had sex twice in the last 2y ears (no lie)

I am sick. What can I do ! Is it me?
. We have tried counseling in the past. She keeps stating I am the one with the problem.

Sounds like you do have a problem - your wife. I believe alienation of affection is considered just cause for divorce in some states. Other states don't require it, just takes longer if you have kids.

I always recommend counseling first. She sounds unreasonable by your description, has she been seen by a doctor? Maybe there are other issues that need to be ruled out.

In what ways does she point out that you are always at fault? Just for not yelling at the kids right, or you complaining about the messes, I am not sure I get what is really going on. There have been times where I haven't wanted to be intamate with my husband, but a week or so at the most and then either my body or mind give in. 2 years is a long time. What the heck is going on? Does she want to leave? Do you? Has she talked to you about this, because it is not normal for you two not to be making love. I think I asked more questions than you did. Sorry.

It shoulds like a big lack of honest communitcation. This is a case where marriage counseling to work though the problems could be a great help.