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  • May 1, 2007, 01:52 AM
    brokennbattered
    My Boyfriend Never Wants to Have Sex
    We're both young and have been together for 6months. At first he would be all over me 24/7. Now he hardly ever even kisses me or tells me I'm beautiful. I love him so much and I want to make this work but this has been going on for 3months and I'm starting to feel depressed and lonely. What should I do?
  • May 1, 2007, 02:00 AM
    Jiser
    Get your own life, become less available to him, see your friends more, get a new direction in your life, cling less, be fun and bubbly, enjoy life, SEDUCE HIM, be sexy !
  • May 1, 2007, 02:19 AM
    Jiser
    Well dump him and get another BF ! If your not happy, then move on.
  • May 1, 2007, 11:07 AM
    Rockabilly1955mama
    You should ask him what's going on. Men get bored very easily with women, as sad as it is true. But if you're not happy with him I would say move on. Things can get better or they can get worse. You got to work on them both. Talk to him about the way YOU'RE feeling and if he has nothing to say then, dump him. But if he does listen and tells you what's been going on, then things will hopefully get better. What ever happens, the best of luck to both of you.
  • May 1, 2007, 12:14 PM
    startover22
    If you are young, I just assume you take a breather and try to avoid having sex. I don't think you should be sexy at all. I think you should be happy and bubbly but not sexy. Especially if you are still in high school. He isn't treating you with the respect he was before? Say good bye to him. There are so many nice guys out there to hang around with, and who think you are beautiful, I'm sure...
  • May 2, 2007, 03:49 AM
    anam01
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by brokennbattered
    We're both young and have been together for 6months. At first he would be all over me 24/7. Now he hardly ever even kisses me or tells me I'm beautiful. I love him so much and I want to make this work but this has been going on for 3months and I'm starting to feel depressed and lonely. What should I do?

    YOu are so cute and young for love and sex. If you are not happy with him may be he is interested in som other person You should ask him or may be he is not ready for sex or has some problem. Don't be depressed try to win him over by changing your style.
    Hope the best for you.
  • May 2, 2007, 08:08 AM
    tiredandlonely
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by brokennbattered
    We're both young and have been together for 6months. At first he would be all over me 24/7. Now he hardly ever even kisses me or tells me I'm beautiful. I love him so much and I want to make this work but this has been going on for 3months and I'm starting to feel depressed and lonely. What should I do?

    I would talk to him. Find out what the issues are. I know that I was just in a relationship with a woman. She is more sexually advanced than myself. She kind of intimidated me at first. I had some issue and didn't have sex with her for a few months, when I did it was great. Then again, I had been working so much that sex just didn't happen. She never really sat down to talk about things, she then dumped me. So the best answer is to be upfront and talk about it.
  • May 2, 2007, 02:08 PM
    dannysmom
    Dump him,

    I'm married for 7 years, got the guts to tell him how I felt today, same as you and the jerk turned it on me, and says he is tired and started naming all the things he does for me. Look the world will look brighter when someone shows you love and tenderness and makes you feel wanted. Dump him now!
  • May 2, 2007, 02:28 PM
    gypsy456
    You have been together for 6 months.
    The last 3 months have been so heavy that it makes you depressed.

    Life is too short for this.
    You are so young and still in high school.

    Move on.
    Do what makes you happy.
    Don't stick with things that make you unhappy...

    Take matters in your own hand and do not rely on other people to make you happy.

    Life is too short for this...
  • May 3, 2007, 09:48 AM
    SnaveLeber
    How long were you together before you gave yourself to him? If it was pretty quick, he may not have respected you like he should have.
    Id say leave him, gain some confidence, because mens biggest turn off is insecurity. Hold yourhead high, find another man who respects you for respecting yourself... and have a great relationship
  • Jun 22, 2009, 03:52 PM
    kitty906
    I understand the situation so well, unfortunately. I don't know why you're BF would not want to have sex with you, but I do know that it's more complicated than anyone can judge from the outside. When you love someone, you feel like you can work on it, but when you keep feeling rejected it hurts too much. Before you break up with him over this, ask yourself if there are other problems you can't live with. If you are thinking of breaking up with him over this, it's OK. You don't want to be married to a guy you have sex with once a year-and it does happen! So many problems result from this, like you may result to cheating or become a little peculiar.

    What I do know is that it's not you. Your boyfriend should want to have sex with you, and he doesn't. That's his problem, not yours. Either he isn't interested because he's getting it elsewhere, or he has a real problem, like he feels bad or dirty afterwards for example.

    You deserve a good sex life, and someone you love that you can't have sex with is by definition, just a friend.
  • Jun 22, 2009, 04:06 PM
    teastalk

    How long into your relationship did you have sex with him? If it was early, maybe that's all he was in the relationship for. After they've had the sex, they get bored and want another challenge in the form of a different girl.

    Tell him how you feel. If he tries to help you feel better about it, and not give you excuses, then maybe he's just tired or under pressure. Communication is the key to relationships I hear.

    Maybe he's just not that excited for sex at the moment. Just relax and see if he comes to you for the sex. Wait for him to ask for it. Otherwise, you do feel bad, needy, and clingy when you're the one wanting it all the time and he doesn't.

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