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  • Apr 30, 2007, 05:08 AM
    foxyjen
    How do I know if his cheating again
    How do I know if his cheating again?
  • Apr 30, 2007, 06:02 AM
    laura hamilton
    If He is distant and acting a bit shifty!
    If you think he is you need to catch him out! Ask around, or turn up unexpected.
    Obviously its happened before so you are bound to be paranoid! Trust me I know and he did do it again but 10 times worse! Find out if he is because if he is, he is making a fool of you and your better off out of there! X
  • Apr 30, 2007, 09:11 AM
    Rina _4
    If he does it once, he is more likely to do it again and again. Sorry to say.
    Some times the truth hurts, but it's reality.
  • Apr 30, 2007, 09:21 AM
    Tuscany
    If you have to ask a question like that... chances are you know the answer.

    And Rina is right... cheaters have a pattern of cheating.
  • Apr 30, 2007, 09:22 AM
    joeysgirl
    Just because he has done it once doesn't mean he will do it again I have been cheated on before to... listen to the way he talks to you.. if he acts like he has something bothering him then he might be not all the time does it mean that but sometimes k...
  • May 1, 2007, 01:43 PM
    ceriphante
    Mm was thinking about your question here and thought I'd give you some honest information from a male point of view..

    First up the so-called rule about someone being a cheater forever simply isn't true, however it enforces a good way to retain self dignity and respect by labelling someone permanently as a cheater as it will kind of force you subconsciously into breaking up with them permanently and writing off any chance to hookup with them again...

    Then there's the other possibility.. it is possible that maybe you have some past baggage or insecurities that plague you with fear uncertainty and doubt about your partner, it is possible he's fine and doing the right thing by you but the past could be bringing up some self sabotage sitaution? I know I've personally been guilty of this one in the past myself..

    Ultimately if you spend 90% of your time worrying if your partner is cheating
    Then your better off without them anyway, whether they are or aren't, because;
    1 if they are cheating on you, really you deserve better
    2 if they aren't then maybe its all in your head then your not really ready for a relationship and potentially your going to hurt them or yourself

    I would sincerely hope no matter what happens in the situation you are currently in that better things come your way in the future!

    Good luck!
  • May 1, 2007, 10:25 PM
    SnaveLeber
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by foxyjen
    How do i know if his cheating again??


    Umm, because he cheated before... :rolleyes:
  • May 2, 2007, 03:08 AM
    perkica
    Hi Foxyjen,
    Unfortunately once a cheater always a cheater in my book. Have had this done to me before and if you forgive him the chances are you have just given him a license to do it again. I am in the process of starting my own business up which catches people out so if you need a 'Honey Trap' just let me know and I would be happy to help...
  • May 4, 2007, 07:13 AM
    joeysgirl
    People you girls need to give guys a chance there not all cheaters god people I thought you had a little more respect then that for guys
  • May 4, 2007, 07:18 AM
    Rina _4
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by joeysgirl
    people you girls need to give guys a chance there not all cheaters god people i thought you had a lil more respect then that for guys

    Not all men cheat.
    We are not talking about ALL guys, just the ones that cheat. Once they cheat and know they can get away with it, then they are more likely to cheat again and again.
  • Feb 28, 2012, 03:46 AM
    BabyGurl10311
    My boyfriend hasn't physically "cheated" on me as far as I know there's been rumors, but I've caught him online TWICE. Doing things among the lines of accepting blow job offers and telling them that they have nice boobs or they're lesbians and he tells them their girlfriends are hot.. . I've had a really bad past with men and in my book if they don't physically abuse me they're the best guy in the world. He's never put off any signs other than texting A LOT or going online A LOT, but sometimes when he thinks I'm "sleeping" he gets out his phone and texts when I "wake-up" he throws it down. I've also caught him with pictures of "himself" (if you know what I mean) on his phone and I don't have any of them pictures I don't go through his stuff only Facebook when I had suspicion the last couple times I caught him... I want to give him the benefit of the doubt but I don't know what to do... should it be "Three strikes you're out" or Something else.. . Help? /:

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