I will never forget my first Ex she was the first I slept with and we dated for Four Years and what a rush it was!! I was 20 she was 16 I was having the time of my life enjoying some of the best times of my life going out partyying doing what all young people should be doing Having Fun!! The years flew bye She was blonde and hot and chased me ecverywhere, she was aggressive and loud would cry more than be happy I was a wild guy many times she told me to choose between patying and her and I just said well you know wheree the door is (we didn't live together). I new she wasn't going anywhere and the relationship continued on she would do anything I want couldn't believe I had such a hot girl and she kept trying to get me more and more, not to me knowing but the more I pushed her away the more she kept coming!! It was wild we had fun down the park the beach the neighbours house while they were away!! I will never forget those wild times...
Then bang all of a sudden the tables turned a bit she got to age 20 and she started to do her own thing more and I started to chase a bit and before you know it I was out!!

Well I was so upset and had to move on she had a new guy!! I thought Geez I did wrong by her and was pissed at myself... But now I look back at it and laugh Im 28 and have since met a girl who is way more normal and doesn't get jealous although she recently du,mped me cause I turned into a wuss!! But anyhow talking about my first Ex she then contacted me 6 months later but I had moved on and boy do we have a laugh about it now at the family functions!! All my family say is where is she now!! She was a bit of a psycho always calling my house coming around looking for me screaming yelling abusing and yet my mum even caught us once going for it in the back yard, Boy this girl would do anything I wanted I couldn't get enough!! That was a great time in my life and this is the story of my first Ex.

To help many people who think they will never get over there first Ex I think you will!! I am glad that I did not end up with hER!!

ALTHOIUGH NOW MY SECOND EX OF 3 1/2 YEARS GOT RID OF ME MAYBE I GET TO COMFORTABLE!! I LOVE THIS ONE WITH ALL MY HEART AND AM STRUGGLING BUT MUST PUSH ON!! ANOTHER AMAZING CHAPTER IN MY LIFE AND I SAY I WILL ONLY GET STRONGER FROM THIS!! LOVE IS MADE I HJAVE NO DOUBT AND WITH THE RIGHT TECHNIQUES CAN BE CONTROLLED!! ONE SMALL SLIP AND IT MAY BE ALL OVER SO STAY TRUE AND GET OVER THE FIRST EX AND THINK ITS TIME TO GROW AND FIND SOMEONE SPECIAL! GOOD LUCK ALL!!

Nobody ever forgets someone who was close in your heart but one day you will remember the fond times and be pleased for the life you have now. It is better to have loved and lost than not to have at all. Or those experiences and lessons you had would have never existed and I for one have learn t so much and I am glad at 21 to you have gone through what I have done now rather than later. All the books, forums etc I have visited especially this one has taught me so much about life. Love is one of those things which make and break life it depends on how you handle it and every time it really does make you stronger.

Thought I would add this to this thread.. Hope you don't mind Mckenzie, but I believe others will also identify with what you are going through.. You can still pm me if you need to talk.. Take it easy..


Like my ex, I believe your ex was growing this idea of leaving you for a long time, perhaps anything up to 6 months... She used the comment by the friend as an excuse. She probably wanted out badly but may not have wanted to hurt you because she probably cared for you.

My ex did not categorically leave me for another man. She did however hint that she missed being single and flirting with men and possibly wanted to experiment...

This happens often to young women and although the thought will make you physically sick, you cannot deny that this is not a great possibility for your ex. I am not saying she is easy but she may need time to find herself. This could manifest itself in numerous ways and this is an important part of her growth mentally and physically.

This is what you must accept and realise that you can never control the inevitable but you can learn from experiences and grow emotionally.

Love will find you again, you just have to move on and in time, these feelings of sadness, anger, resentment will fade into something much more tolerable.

Take it easy..

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Don't be so hard on yourself, you are persistent in placing all the blame on you..Its not all your fault at all...I know because my situation was very similar in many ways to yours. Your ex is young, it could well have happened even if you distanced yourself and kept busy. Sure it may have bought you an extra year or 2 with her, there is no denying that possibility but the likelihood taht she would have done this anyway is very high because of her age. Girls at this age just want to have fun being single, dating different people, discovering themselves..

You just have to pack your bags (so to speak) and chalk this one up to experience. After nearly 8 months post breakup, my ex has not come back, not heard from her in 7 months. Shes gone and there is nothing I can do about it. It tore my heart apart but in the end, the only thing I could do was accept it and let go. Life is a funny thing..

Take it easy buddy..PM me if ever you need advice or are feeling down.

Geoff..

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Hay mate yourve beenagreat help and i believe youknowmy story benn with ex 3 1/2 years she wanted break. Ayway you gaveme some great advice and told me she was young. Im still trying to get over it after 6 weeks and i still kick myself for not having a bitmore of my own life. I have followed your story throughout and i hope your doing well. I always hope she calls me and we can work things out but itdoesnt lok promising at the moment. Its amazing how i sit here and think how just before she broke it off she was tellingme we are a serious couple. Well i just got sucked in telling how much she loved me i still reaent it now wish i had of kept her waiting abit more on her own at home bored...just tried to be nice what a!!!!

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Hay geoff your right life is a funny ting I'm trying noyt to feel to down... 3 1/2 years is a long time. Do you know dfid your girlfriend leave for another guy, mine did not and is on her own yet she gets plenty of guys asking her out so there's no problem with that if she wanted it. My hardest thing is to get over the fact she kept on judging our relationship and said she was deciding weather we were going to be together forever or not she kept sayiong she ways up the good and the bad. Days leading to our break up were so good everything was fine and then one night were out and my stupid mate made some comment about her being easy, and she said well if your friends think I'm like that they don't respect me or you and themn the next day she said she wanted a break to see if the love she felt for me was enough forever she didn't know what it should feel like... Its so hard I blame him for making that stupid commenmt and no longer talk to him... I still can't believe he would say something like that and he has said to me he was talking about someone elae and they got it wrong, that pretty much ended my chances with her and she told me that she was tossing things up but that was the final straw...

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I hope I never remember my first Ex?

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I hope I never remember my first Ex?

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How come if you don't mind me asking?

If you read my thread "Is my Ex fiance coming back again" and "I think my ex fiance is coming back again" that should explain it everything. And my head is clearing up so I'm thinking of stuff that wasn't posted. And my letter to ex.

I like what you said up there Geoff! : )

It hurts me a lot when I here what my ex has been up to, but hey live and learn.

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I like what you said up there Geoff! : )

It hurts me alot when I here what my ex has been up to, but hey live and learn.

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Mmmmmm...

I know buddy..

Sadly (or actually not) mine is left down to imagination and I can only speculate on what my ex is up to but that has nothing to do with me anymore. Still plays with my mind though.

I'm going to be honest now...

Sometimes, especially over the past few weeks, I have been thinking of contacting her and asking her if she would like to reconcile as a friend but I know that this is the wrong thing to do and won't do it. After 8 months post breakup, she is long gone... but it makes me kind of sad inside to know that we could never be friends. Its just a passing thought I guess... She may even be dating someone new by now and I am probably long forgotten.. LOL

But that's o.k...

Life goes on and has for me just like everyone said it would.