Ask Me Help Desk - Trying to Cope

Hi All,
My breakup is now 2 months with no contact at all however, I feel so awful because, now I realize that I walked out and I have no one to LOVE. It is so painful because, I know my ex has someone to go to even though the relationship is new.
I have gotten into myself as was suggested by those who answered my questions, I feel so so, so alone and nothing is soothing my pain.

How do I cope?
Even though my ex cheated, I wonder is he happy?

I am so miserable, you just can’t imagine. I have a hole in my heart so large that I don’t know if it can be repaired. What to do now?

Move on.

Live your life without desperation. Your being desperate and that will only make you more lonely.

You need to love yourself before loving yourself. You need to love yourself and go out and experience life. Volunteer, schooling. Just do things to improve on yourself.

Very simple. It will be easy to do if you actually let go of the past. THere is not any going back nor should you.

Joe

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Originally Posted by jazzie42

Hi All,
My breakup is now 2 months with no contact at all however, I feel so awful because, now I realize that I walked out and I have no one to LOVE. It is so painful because, I know my ex has someone to go to even though the relationship is new.
I have gotten into myself as was suggested by those who answered my questions, I feel so so, so alone and nothing is soothing my pain.

How do I cope?
Even though my ex cheated, I wonder is he happy?

I am so miserable, you just can’t imagine. I have a hole in my heart so large that I don’t know if it can be repaired. What to do now?

I agree with jesushelper, move on, you need to be happy & contented with yourself, when you are, "LOOK OUT WORLD, I'M BACK", you will be happier because you have moved on, my experience is that ex's should stay as that-ex's. You are worth more than that, your ex probably didn't deserve you in the first place. I believe that when you are content & happy with yourself, the right person will come along. Sarah.

It's hard to move on... but not impossible. Each moment of your life embraces you with lot of opportunities... it's up to you to accept or reject them. Your inner happiness will lie on the fact that something's you should just leave to BE... there's nothing much that you can do if you run after something... Give it time... and let yourself sometime to find YOU... for that you need to have faith in yourself... it's easy... try it.

Quote:

Originally Posted by jazzie42

Hi All,
My breakup is now 2 months with no contact at all however, I feel so awful because, now I realize that I walked out and I have no one to LOVE. It is so painful because, I know my ex has someone to go to even though the relationship is new.
I have gotten into myself as was suggested by those who answered my questions, I feel so so, so alone and nothing is soothing my pain.

How do I cope?
Even though my ex cheated, I wonder is he happy?

I am so miserable, you just can’t imagine. I have a hole in my heart so large that I don’t know if it can be repaired. What to do now?

Scottiesara,
I know exactly how you feel. My ex cheated on me and lied to me throughout the whole relationship. Even though we were long distance, he was planning on moving to my city so we could get married. WE were very serious, he had met my parents and vice versa (both of our parents live in completely separate states from where we live). I NEVER expected this of him. I have been in longer relationships than this one, but it hurt so bad because I never expected he would do this to me. He was the sweetest guy. I broke up with him when this happened. Since then it has been 2months and I actually saw him twice. He came to see me when all of it went down two months ago and he came again. I am still not over him. Its so hard because he texts me saying he's having a hard time and tells me his problems. I have told him to stop this. By talking to him more and more I realize this is who he is. His dad was a charmer, womanizer, and lier. You need to realize this too. Your ex may have moved on, but that does not mean he's happy. Hes trying to get over you in a rebound situation of some sort. And just cause he's dating and you are alone shouldn't make you feel that you made the wrong decision. I know its hard but remember, its better to be alone and miserable than be with someone who's going to make you miserable. Once a cheater, always a cheater.