Hi people.
OK well I'm sleeping with someone I really shouldn't be.
We were pretty good friends, had a bit of trust and stuff. I left my boyfriend (we were so in love :() of 2 and a half years to be with this man. This man is 41, I was 17 (now 18).. is a criminal, but is reformed- facing jail time.. bla bla bla, all the bad stuff. I thought I was in love with him. He led me on to the point I thought we could be happy together, so I left my boyfriend. Now I realise I didn't mean anything more to him than sex every now and then, and it hurts. Even though pretty early on we said we would be 'friends with benefits' , I thought I must still mean something to him. I thought he was just afraid of what people would say, or the reputation he may get. He is also my brother's best friend. So we've been sleeping together (we live in different towns) every time we meet up. I don't think I love him, I guess there's only so many times you can be used and lied to before it takes its toll. I need to stop it but I don't have the confidence to say no. I am too scared. Even though I think he is using me, I feel if I say no to sex he won't talk to me anymore. I just need anyone's advice on how I could end the sex but not end our friendship, on bad terms. I wish I had never become involved with him in the first place :( he is always making me feel bad. But at the same time he has taught me a lot and I continue to learn from him
Thanks anyone if you can help me :/ I am just so weak. I miss my boyfriend:| I think I still love him, but now he's moved on (dont blame him after how I treated him)

This man is using you, he does not love you, he is just thinking about himself and using you for his own pleasure. Criminal? Yes, its called child abuse!

Stop seeing him now it will lead to nothing good!

In my opinion he is scum!! Not worth a single cent>

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I don't think I love him, I guess there's only so many times you can be used and lied to before it takes its toll.

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Its not confidence you need but common sense.

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I need to stop it but I don't have the confidence to say no. I am too scared. Even though I think he is using me, I feel if I say no to sex he won't talk to me anymore.

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If you had common sense you would see that all you have to do is say no to sex and he will have no use for you and you will be free to heal and get away from the misery and pain you are letting him cause you
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just need anyone's advice on how I could end the sex but not end our friendship, on bad terms.

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This is not a friendship, would a friendship cause misery and pain? Does a friendship mean being used? If he where truly your friend he would not be messing with a youngster who knows nothing of life. Again common sense!!

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I wish I had never become involved with him in the first place :( he is always making me feel bad. But at the same time he has taught me a lot and I continue to learn from him

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Learn how to be miserable, if the experience had been a good one, you would want to stay in it.

I only pulled a few things to point out but I'm sure you get the picture. Love yourself as much as you think you loved him and do the right thing for yourself and leave Jail boy's old arse alone. I'll bet cutting him from your life will clear up 99% of the confusion you are now in and 99.9999% of the pain will ease up and go away. I guarantee it!!