Hi. I've been living with my boyfriend for two years and the past year he's totally gone off sex but I keep catching him looking at porn on his PC and phone. He claims he still finds me attractive and I'm physically in good shape, I've tried everything to get our sex life back on track but he just doesn't seem to be interested at all. What can I do I've tried talking to him but he just isn't interested? I REALLY need some advice asap!

He's not totally off sex if he's looking at porn.

> Is he using porn as a substitute for "real sex" with you?

> Is he on any medication or receiving medical treatments that are diminishing his sexual capability?

> Did something happen that made him feel sexually inadequate?

There's quite a range of possibilities... I think you should have a very focused conversation with him about what each of you wants and needs.

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Originally Posted by london01

hi. i've been living with my bf for two years and the past year hes totally gone off sex but i keep catching him looking at porn on his pc and phone. he claims he still finds me attractive and i'm physically in good shape, i've tried everything to get our sex life back on track but he just doesnt seem to be interested at all. What can i do i've tried talking to him but he just isnt interested? I REALLY need some advice asap!

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This is the most difficult thing to do but If you've tried other things then its time you start looking at porn yourself see how he likes it... OR You may want to try the better of the 2 and tell him that your fine with it... except it.. maybe if he see's that you arnt to focused on his porn issue he will stop... give it a few weeks.. if then he doesn't stop? Look for someone else and inform him that your looking...

Ps- men looking at porn isn't the issue.. its when they loose interest in you, that's the issue... I think the harder you try to please him and make him happy the more turned off he will get...