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  • Apr 27, 2007, 02:27 PM
    Bri N713
    Boys are Confusing!
    I like this boy and it took me a while to get up enough courage to talk to him. Finally I did. But only online. We talked about pretty much everything and he told me EVERYTHING about him. We were supposed to get together over the weekend but he forgot he made other plans. We haven't talked in over a week. He never says hi to me in school and he looks as if he avoids me in the halls. I told him I was interested in him, and he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship right now because he was dealing with looking at colleges. He has had bad relationships in the past, and I really want to get together with him and form a relationship, but I don't know how to let him know I would be there for him. I don't know if he was nicely rejecting me or if he meant that he couldn't have a girlfriend right now. I mean, he told me some things that only a really small amount of people would probably ever accept and he acts like Im not even here except for online. I have his number but I just don't feel like I could just call him up and be like "Heyy lets hang out" because I don't want to come off as sketchy. I really like him, and I love the fact he can openly express himself to me. He is just so different then other people that I have been interested in, and I want this to work. I just think he is afraid and I don't know how to approach it because I always get this nervous feeling in the pit of my stomach when I am around him, and therefor I distant myself from him. =[ I truly think he is worth the wait, but I don't know what to do.
  • Apr 28, 2007, 11:15 AM
    DesignDude
    I saw no one answered your question. Well here goes my advice, Don't worry about him I think he really doesn't want anything right now. First of all if he really cared he wouldn't have forgotten your get together. I may be wrong, but I think you are infatuated with him because he is being a "bad boy". I have a friend like that that is constantly IMing girls and talking to them. Sometimes they are just lonely guys not really looking for anything but attention. Hope it helps and good luck...

    Thanks,
    DesignDude
  • Apr 28, 2007, 11:57 AM
    Becca1025
    Well there's two things you can do here, one is call him. Just suck it up, call him and invite him to hang out. If he says yes, then that's great, if he says no then maybe you should just accept the fact he really does not want a relationship. Or two, just let it go. We all want someone we can't have, just the way it is. The guy might really not want to start a relationship. He could be wanting someone else. School is almost over, and you said he was looking at colleges so imagine how complicated it would be if he moved to go to college. Long distance relationships are not fun and they hurt a lot. He may only look at you as a good friend whom he can talk to. That's probably why he told you secrets of his. If you really are curious or want to find out, just call him. Otherwise, I think the guy just really does not want a relationship right now. That's okay, there's plenty other guys out there. Ones that won't forget about plans you make with them. Goodluck hope it works out for the best.
  • Apr 28, 2007, 12:33 PM
    Bluerose
    Becca1025,

    Couldn't have put it any better. Tried to rate you but told I had to spread it. Great answer!

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