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  • Apr 26, 2007, 12:26 PM
    TCCarbajal
    Sis and I due two weeks apart 1st baby's, family feels I'm stealing her thunder
    I have been trying to conceive for 15months now and just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant, my sister found out she is pregnant two weeks ago and our babies are due two weeks apart. She and her husband have only been trying to conceive for 5months and I was very happy for them. Now I found out I am Pregnant and all of my family keeps telling me that I am stealing HER thunder, I am so hurt and frustrated, this is the first baby for the both of us and when her and her husband decided to trying to conceive they asked if I would be OK with it I said yes and prayed that they did not have to wait as long as I did, I know she is excited for me but my family feels that I am stealing HER THUNDER, what do I do?
  • Apr 26, 2007, 12:42 PM
    Emland
    Sorry your family are such jerks. What to do? Eat right, drink lots of water and get plenty of rest and ignore your inconsiderate family as much as you can.

    My sister and I conceived close together, (but not near as close as you) and I love that my son is so close in age to his cousin.
  • Apr 26, 2007, 12:46 PM
    RubyPitbull
    Does your sister think you are stealing her thunder? It doesn't sound like she does.

    Who in your family is doing this? Tell them to get a life. Better yet, you and your sister together should sit down with your family members who are giving you a hard time, and together, tell them all to get a life. These other people should not be raining on your parade. It is petty and mean. They need to be told that, and if it were me, I would tell them to keep their opinions to themselves. I would say if my sister doesn't have a problem with it, then to suggest such a thing is cruel, nasty, small minded, and hurtful. Remind them how long you have been trying to conceive. Tell them you are deeply hurt by their words. They should be happy for you both, and revel in the joy both you and your sister are experiencing.

    P.S. Sorry emland, didn't see your post.
    Do what emland suggests. Keep yourself healthy.
  • Apr 26, 2007, 12:50 PM
    Synnen
    Congratulations!

    I agree with Ruby (had to spread the love, Ruby) completely. If your sister doesn't have a problem, why should anyone else?

    If your sister doesn't feel as though you are raining on her parade, then remind everyone else that it's YOUR parade too, and you have every right to be happy!

    Good luck to you!
  • Apr 26, 2007, 12:53 PM
    whiteladybug2002
    There is always that person in all families that has to be a "butt"! I am sorry that you have to go through this! It can be so hard if you feel your family is against you.

    Don't let it get you down! You are having this baby for yourself and your spouse! You didn't get pregnant to make them happy, did you? Just take this as a learning experience, so you don't do this to anyone or your child.

    Why do people have to behave like this? It gets my goose!

    Well I am excited for you! Congratulations!! YOUR GOING TO HAVE A BABY!!

    Good Luck and God Loves You!!
  • Apr 26, 2007, 01:11 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Yes, sadly we are stuck with the family that God has given us, and normally most are stupid or jerks and that are their best qualities at times.

    So you have a wonderful baby and go on with life.
  • Apr 26, 2007, 04:45 PM
    buggage
    Its not as though you decided " hey, after 15 months of trying, I am going to get pregnant right NOW, just so I can steal my sisters thunder" its rude of your family to even suggest that you are trying to be selfish in that way, esp since she has only been trying for 5 months, and you for 15. They must know how badly you wanted, and how long you waited for this. And it's a first baby for both of you too. Don't let them get you down. This can be a great time of bonding for you and your sister. Shopping together for baby things, and maternity clothes will be so fun for you to do together. Just focus on the fact that you finally got your baby wish, and your sister is lucky enough to get hers at the same time, so you can both enjoy the closeness, and your children will also be able to enjoy the closeness that they share together, being so close in age. Good luck to you and congrats on the long awaited pregnancy.

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