Me and my ex mutually broke it off about a month ago but still have contact, but have not been sexual since the break up. We are friendly and she flirts with me all the time. The reason for the break up was that she wasn't ready to get serious so quick after a break up with her previous relationship. I think she is still attached emotionally to him and she told me twice that he has been texting her. I am prepared to be patient for a little while but how can I make her forget about this guy who messed her up so bad. She pursued me in the beginning of our relationship and I have always been good to her. That is why she still wants to be around me. I rarely call or text her, so I am giving her space. Is it enough to just show I care and hope for the best?

Just continue to give her space and let her sort out her feelings. When she's finally fed up with ging through the bs that her ex puts her through she will come looking for you. Hopefully you will have met someone else that will appreciate you and not use you as a rebound.

The best thing in the world is for her to do it on her own. People got to learn to break up and move on by themselves. I mean, really, if you think about it, all sorts of life changes have to be done by one's self. Got to have confidence in your decisions. Stuff in the way makes you question your decision. Ie, you "in the way" will make her question hers. Which will end up possibly painful for you.

So... yeah... the space is good. I think you're doing it right. Be friendly. Send texts every now and again... just like you're doing.

Find some other gals, too, or you may be waiting on something for a long, long time.

I agree 100% with what you said Sameolsituation. Karma82, you have to make these decisions on your own because you are the one who has to live with it. Just don't waste your time on her because there are plenty other women out there that is waitng for a man like you yet you are waiting for a girl who is still hung up on someone that means her no good.

She is so unavailable and is still figuring out her pevious relationship. Don't just sit and wait for her to come to you, but get on with your life and enjoy doing the things you like and people who make you happy. She will not be ready for what you want for a very long time.