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Hi my sister is gay and she was broken up with after a six year relationship. Her ex said that she did not feel the same way about her anymore. My sister does not cope with this stuff very well and it has been almost a year ago that they officially broke up but still occasionally have contact. She still dwells on it because she still loves (though she tries to h8) her ex. She now feels that she will be alone for the rest of her life because of her sexuality, that there will be no one or it will be to hard for her to meet anyone else. What advice can I give her to put her mind at ease or is there a place that she can meet people even just to have as friends for support. She is the most open, honest loving person I no and I just want to be able to help her. What can I do?

Six years is a long time. It can takes months or even years to "get over" a relationship. You just need to move on when the relationship is really done.

Of course, there is the gay bar scene to possibly try. There are also gay coffee shops and cafes.

If she knows other lesbian women perhaps they could introduce her to others like herself. Gays and lesbians do tend to network. A basic law of physics is that water seeks it's own level. It's also the same with people.

There are denominations of churches that are gay friendly. Most notably, in the U.S. that would be the Metropolitan Community Church or MCC for short. Other gay friendly denominations that come to my mind would be the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America or ELCA, Disciples of Christ, United Church of Christ, the Episcopal Church, some Presbyterian Churches, many Catholic churches, Unitarian Universalist churches, etc.

There are women's singing groups where a lot of the membership might be lesbian. Might go to the concerts and meet other lesbians there.

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Originally Posted by Peyton666

Hi my sister is gay and she was broken up with after a six year relationship. Her ex said that she did not feel the same way about her anymore. My sister does not cope with this stuff very well and it has been almost a year ago that they officially broke up but still occasionally have contact. She still dwells on it because she still loves (though she tries to h8) her ex. She now feels that she will be alone for the rest of her life because of her sexuality, that there will be no one or it will be to hard for her to meet anyone else. What advice can i give her to put her mind at ease or is ther a place that she can meet people even just to have as friends for support. She is the most open, honest loving person i no and i just want to be able to help her. What can i do?

Hmm no one is alone because of their sexuality, unless they are asexual,
Sounds like she somehow needs to mentally free herself from the yoke of the shadow of her ex, then she will be free to cross paths with another nice gal probably sooner than later, if I was where you are I'd offer to be her friend but um yeah I'm probably the other side of the globe hey.. pm me dude if you want to chat about this some more..