Hi. The first 4 month of my relationship was great we had sex 4 to 5 times a night then she got pregnant and we did it 1 time a day then it was 1 time a week then 1 time month 4 16 months after my son was born it was 1 every 2 weeks and then it was 3 times a week after she whated to have more kids now it back 2 1 time a month. What can I do 2 have sex like we did at the start after she has this kid?

I am a mother and a young one at that although what you have to understand is that she just went through a hell of a lot and I was exactly the same during and after I was pregnant I didn't want any thing to do with sex or men! And you arnt alone my fiancé was in a bigger prediciment than you we did it like 1 a month! Now everything has changed and because he has backed off and won't ask for it any more I have become more attracted to him and I'm like a wild tiger. Don't stess it will get better and it will all change. This is what kids do to you, change!! Buy her flowers when you get paid a card to say you love her a kiss when she least expects it just make sure you don't come on too strong, let her make the move! Good luck!

Would like to hear more about if she is working and caring for a child, Are you helping take care of the baby, getting up in the middle of the night,

Also there is a lot ( a whole lot) more to a relationship than just sex, and she may well want to feel more of a emotional caring relstionship

And if you are expecting to have sex 4 or 5 times anight every night, being the parents of 2 kids ( one a baby) forget it, the few times a week may be realistic but most parents caring for a baby look seroiusly for sleep not sex.

After I had my baby I didn't want sex. I am still not that into sex. Is she on birth control?

Back to what it was might not happen.

How long has it been since she had "this kid"?

Stress and being tired can kill libido.