I would like to no iwhat people's thoughts are on the idea of a soul mate? Do you think that there is only one true love out there for us or do you think that there can be love found everywhere?:confused:

I've got to be honest, although I am deeply in love with my girlfriend and would certainly class her as my soul mate, but I find the thought of 'One true love' in a World of billions of people a hard concept to grasp!

Ever the pessimist! Lol!

I don't agree with 'the one'. With every relationship you have to work on it and unfortunately life is not a fantasy and I don't think for many of us ever lives up to our perfect 'dreams.'

Personally I believe there is love to be found in many people in the world, with every person there are new unique differences, dislikes, likes and flaws. You can be in love with many people, perhaps a connection will be stronger with different people, but as said above I do find it a hard concept to grasp that there is a soul mate.

In our lives so many people drift in and out. Some will be with you for many years, friends will experience many happy memories with you, then the next they will be gone for ever or maybe even a few years. The only people who are usually with you throughout are your family! I say treasure everything you have for it may be a short time...

I don't think the concept of a soul mate is particularly healthy even if it is true!

You should want to and expect to work at a relationship to make it work. If you find your perfect soulmate then it's a bonus!!

Its so easy to believe in soulmates when they are there in your life, and when they leave for whatever reason its such a hole in your soul, but life moves on to the next soulmate. The concept can get you stuck when things don't work in the long run. But makes for great romantic movies.
Warning" Real life is not a movie with happy endings, but hard work and a lot of learning.

Love and a idea mate is the one you work hard making a relationship with. Also since all of us change every year as we grow and interact with people, the perfect person 10 years ago, is not always the same today, if they are not growing and changing with us.

I Agree with Tal. I think in life you may find about 3 people who could be your soulmate at a point in time.
Time changes things, as one gets older, what you think was your soulmate at a certain age changes as you mature.

I am not sure if I truly believe in the statement. Humans have an amazing way of healing themselves (it does take time though). So I think you could find 2 soulmates or even three.

But what about that first love... now that is hard to get over :)

First love, yeah, I am still struggling, in all honesty I am completely confused over the term 'love' now but I am hurting still after 3 months after my first proper girlfriend.

Absolutely think that soulmate is a con people use to elevate a relationship into some "destined", higher level.

Bullsh!t.

I have a great marriage to a great woman. I think, if something happened to either of us, its possible for the other partner to again find a great person and have a great marriage.

Now... in the first 35 years of my life I've had three to four real loves. If I had to choose the soulmate tag, id say maybe two of them would have qualified... one being a girlfriend I dated when the timing was really off.

So... I think you might find a few people in your life who can really be that something extra special. It takes time. Some people might never find it. Some might find a few.

But often, at this site, the term soulmate is used by one of two groups of people:

1) young people who are still learning what love is and are at that stage where everything is new

2) people who are in a serious relationship but in love with another person... like the married person who wants to be with another and is trying to justify leaving the relationship by elevating the connection to the other as a "soulmate" connection.

Yeh agree there. Soul mate - don't think so! In some relationships such as excellent marriages yes it will be an amazing, loving, special time but there not the only person in the world who you could have a connection with.

My granddad was married for many years, his wife (my grandma) died of a heart attack and he met another 10 years later. It is definitely possible to find love again.

Soul mate definitely a bs made up word used time and time again for justification.